What is the rudest question...

[pomtzu]

I too got a lot of ignorant statements/questions when my ex and I split:

"Wow - I always thought you were the perfect couple"....
Yup - looks can be deceiving.

"He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met".....
Sure - you didn't have to live with him.

"Who's idea was it to split up".....
At least we agreed on one thing.

"I saw him with another woman - is he going to marry her"....
Why don't you ask him, or her. If the answer is yes, convey your sympathies to the woman.

[Catherinedana]

"He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met".....
Sure - you didn't have to live with him.

AMEN!! He even had my mother fooled. . .but she never saw him staggering around drunk.

Yes, I know. . .too much information. . .

[redbird]

Maybe more like, "How can you live in a house with all those kids?" rather than dogs, cats or birds!!!!

MY kids go to sleep when it gets dark and are quiet all night!
MY kids get put in a cage with a door for a time-out when they misbehave!
MY kids don't beg me for things whenever I go into a store.
MY kids love me unconditionally no matter what I look like, how much money I have or what kind of car I drive and do not expect to be driven by limosine to the school prom.

OK - 'nough said.

Oh I agree with you so much. I can hardly stand being around kids in my family, it's just the way I have always been. I am very uncomfortable around kids and certainly wouldn't want any of my own. I don't want to hurt any mother's feelings here but I am more attached to the four legged kids and always have been.

[redbird]

I thought of 2 more. A long time ago there was this man that lived down the hall from me and we'd usually leave for work at the same time. He'd say hello as he passed me and I'd say hello back. One day he asked me "Do you work?". I told him yes and I thought that was strange. He made a comment that I didn't look like I was dressed for work. At my work I don't need to be dressed up. I can wear jeans and tennis shoes. I work in a dental lab and it's very dusty and dirty there. I guess he just assumes that everyone should dress professionaly if they work. I'm glad that he doesn't live in my building any more.

Another question I get a lot is "How many cats do you have?" When I tell them 5 many people are shocked and they probably think that I'm a crazy cat lady. One co-worker even said that my place probably smells because I have so many cats. I blew it off because she's rude to everyone at work.

I would've answered, after her saying your place must smell with all those cats...Well you will never find out since you will never be invited over

[pomtzu]

AMEN!! He even had my mother fooled. . .but she never saw him staggering around drunk.

Yes, I know. . .too much information. . .

I know what you're saying - my parents adored their son-in-law. They - like so many others - never saw his "other" side.

[Catherinedana]

Oh I agree with you so much. I can hardly stand being around kids in my family, it's just the way I have always been. I am very uncomfortable around kids and certainly wouldn't want any of my own. I don't want to hurt any mother's feelings here but I am more attached to the four legged kids and always have been.

I got admonished for the post your are responding to . . .

[momcat]

Wow, I cannot imagine asking that question, or even wondering that! You've gotta wonder what goes on in some people's brains!

I guess there are too many ignorant people running around loose. This thread certainly proves it

[cassiesmom]

One co-worker even said that my place probably smells because I have so many cats.

AARGHH!! (banging head on desk) What an awful thing to say!

[phesina]

"Did he get married again?" "Why? Do you want his phone number?"

Excellent!

[phesina]

When I split with my first husband, a "friend" (male) from work said to me, "I can't believe that you left him. . .he's such a nice guy! I always liked him so much!"

To which I replied, "Well, he's single now so go get 'em!"

Guess I have a bit of an attitude. . .

Also excellent!

[Cataholic]

I got admonished for the post your are responding to . . .

That isn't really accurate. You were 'admonished' for the pot calling the kettle black type comment- not expressing your desire to be child-free.

Redbird's desire to be child-free, or to love her pets more that other's children is not the same as Redbird telling a mother something offensive about the mother's child. There is a difference.

[Catherinedana]

That isn't really accurate. You were 'admonished' for the pot calling the kettle black type comment- not expressing your desire to be child-free.

Redbird's desire to be child-free, or to love her pets more that other's children is not the same as Redbird telling a mother something offensive about the mother's child. There is a difference.

Whatever. . .

I also apologized for potentially insulting anyone. . .

[RICHARD]

Whatever. . .

I also apologized for potentially insulting anyone. . .

"Allegedly" can be used in place of 'potentially'. They use that in the media all the time.

[Cataholic]

You are absolutely right. . .I finally got the chance to vent about all the years of getting questioned about my choice to be childless. Since I did not personally attack you and was responding to a blog by Richard, I would hope that you do not take it personally. I was attempting to make a joke of the issue (although a rather sarcastic one)>

This is a safe place to discuss and I allowed myself to feel safe enough to say what was on my mind, but will watch my words in future.

Cheers!
Cathy

I might not have on the right glasses. I missed the apology.

It has NOTHING to do with potentially or allegedly insulting someone. It has to do with rude comments, be them about children or pets (or anything else).

I am not trying to 'start' anything. I was just clearing up the difference between what you had said, and what Redbird had said.

[Catherinedana]

I'm not going to get into something over this. We can start a thread about the rudest response that you ever received and put my answer first.

Cheers!