Donna - like I told you on the phone - Donna and the kitties come first. It's great to want to be able to help others, and it's just fine to do that, but only after you have taken care of yourself and all of your other obligations. You and the kitties can't eat a phone card or an MP3 player.

This "person" needs to fend for her/him self and provide for the child too. That's not your responsibility. You met your obligations to your daughter without expecting anyone to bail you out, didn't you?? This person needs to do the same, and I feel certain that they wouldn't step up to help you if you asked for help either.

Stop trying to help the world and help yourself first. That's an order!!!