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[Taz_Zoee]

I also say it doesn't hurt to ask about the assistant manager position.

I also work with idiots. But I have so many stories I don't have time to type it all out. So we'll just leave it at that.

[Cataholic]

I must be in the minority! I work with a great group of ladies. Three have been here 20 plus years, two of us, going on 12, and 2 five'ish. We all get along, 99% of the time, and considering the stressful environment- that says a lot!

[catnapper]

I must be in the minority! I work with a great group of ladies. Three have been here 20 plus years, two of us, going on 12, and 2 five'ish. We all get along, 99% of the time, and considering the stressful environment- that says a lot!

Gosh, if it wasn't for the two I'm writing about, it would be the same in my store. Actually, hubby and I have gone out socially with Mr. Temper Tantrum. His tantrums have taken me by surprise to say the least.

The manager and I are great friends. He schedules his days as much with me as possible because he says I help keep him sane. I miss the old assistant manager so much because she and her husband have become great social friends. I miss seeing her in work. Well, like I said, I do have lunch with her today, so its not as if we don't socialize anymore.

Mr. Temper Tantrum (Mr. T for short) has bickered and fought with Ms. Jealousy (Ms. J for short) since day 1. They love to snip at each other. The funny thing is they are EXACTLY alike. Both very driven, very competetive, very lonely, and very insecure. I laugh when Ms. J complains about him for (fill in the blank), because its inevitable that 10 minutes later, Mr. M will make the very same complaint of Ms. J

[catnapper]

I called the former assistant manager this morning - we're having lunch together in a bit. I'm going to ask her what she thinks of me asking. I just need a bit of encouragement She'll be completely honest with me. I know she thinks I won't make a good manager because I back down so easily in order to avoid fights (BUT I'm getting MUCH better at standing my ground... though I still have a lot of work to do in that area.)

[Cataholic]

I called the former assistant manager this morning - we're having lunch together in a bit. I'm going to ask her what she thinks of me asking. I just need a bit of encouragement She'll be completely honest with me. I know she thinks I won't make a good manager because I back down so easily in order to avoid fights (BUT I'm getting MUCH better at standing my ground... though I still have a lot of work to do in that area.)

Change your attitude on this for a moment. Instead of saying that you back down from conflict, say that you back away or off from conflict. That you are a natural conflict avoider. That can be a huge benefit, really. Someone that backs down or away from conflict also could be said to stand back from conflict. That can allow you time to re-think a strategy.

I couldn't back down from conflict if I tried. It just doesn't tear me up, make me nervous, etc. I actually like conflict, as I like working through issues, not around. I am lazy, I think.

[catnapper]

I couldn't back down from conflict if I tried. It just doesn't tear me up, make me nervous, etc. I actually like conflict, as I like working through issues, not around. I am lazy, I think.

Thats what makes you a great lawyer!

[Cataholic]

Thats what makes you a great lawyer!

Well, I am sure if we give this enough time, I can get someone from somewhere else post in the negative on that. But, I am what I am (and I like spinach). It is just more that I can argue vehemently about a topic/subject without having an emotional investment in it. I blow up and blow over in about ten seconds. Perhaps it is that I am missing a soul.

[Marigold2]

Times are tough and those of us blessed with good jobs want to hold on to them no matter what. When I have a bad day it's mostly the patients not my co-workers thankfully. I just think about being home with my family and pets. Work is work, it's what I do not who I am. When I leave I try very hard to put that part away and just focus on family. It's what gets me through some tough days. Good luck to you.

[kitten645]

I too am blessed that I love the people I work with. I don't socialize with the people I'm directly responsible for. That is really more an age/life situation. We are rarely off at the same time. One is married with a young child. Etc
I also dislike conflict and I'm a really good manager so don't let that discourage you. I really dislike the drama involved. I don't think management should be about conflict but direct and honest dealings with those you are responsible for. I think your manager is not doing a good job if s/he is allowing these two to ruin the environment. Next time either of them come *itching to you, I'd just say, "I'm not interested." I think temper tantrums are completely inappropriate at work and would say so. It's called anger management.
Go for the promotion! Worse that can happen is that they say no. At least it shows some interest in your job!

[Cinder & Smoke]

{Great Lawyer ...}
Well, I am sure if we give this enough time,
I can get someone from somewhere else post in the negative on that.

>snikker<

Careful what you *wish* for, Joh ...
These screens have EYES!

Wanna bet on how long it may take?