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**Nomilynn** · 11-12-2009, 10:31 AM

Originally Posted by catnapper

That brings me to another thing: The former assistant manager left to become a full time mom last month. The poor manager has been stressed big-time since her departure. I'd LOVE to ask the big boss if I could be the store designer AND assistant manager. Do you think they'd allow me to accept additional responsibility? We certainly could use the boost in pay.

I would say definately tell them you are interested. It shows your initiative and makes them take notice

**Taz_Zoee** · 11-12-2009, 10:45 AM

I also say it doesn't hurt to ask about the assistant manager position.

I also work with idiots. But I have so many stories I don't have time to type it all out. So we'll just leave it at that.

**Cataholic** · 11-12-2009, 10:54 AM

I must be in the minority! I work with a great group of ladies. Three have been here 20 plus years, two of us, going on 12, and 2 five'ish. We all get along, 99% of the time, and considering the stressful environment- that says a lot!

**catnapper** · 11-12-2009, 11:04 AM

Originally Posted by Cataholic

I must be in the minority! I work with a great group of ladies. Three have been here 20 plus years, two of us, going on 12, and 2 five'ish. We all get along, 99% of the time, and considering the stressful environment- that says a lot!

Gosh, if it wasn't for the two I'm writing about, it would be the same in my store. Actually, hubby and I have gone out socially with Mr. Temper Tantrum. His tantrums have taken me by surprise to say the least.

The manager and I are great friends. He schedules his days as much with me as possible because he says I help keep him sane. I miss the old assistant manager so much because she and her husband have become great social friends. I miss seeing her in work. Well, like I said, I do have lunch with her today, so its not as if we don't socialize anymore.

Mr. Temper Tantrum (Mr. T for short) has bickered and fought with Ms. Jealousy (Ms. J for short) since day 1. They love to snip at each other. The funny thing is they are EXACTLY alike. Both very driven, very competetive, very lonely, and very insecure. I laugh when Ms. J complains about him for (fill in the blank), because its inevitable that 10 minutes later, Mr. M will make the very same complaint of Ms. J

**catnapper** · 11-12-2009, 10:57 AM

I called the former assistant manager this morning - we're having lunch together in a bit. I'm going to ask her what she thinks of me asking. I just need a bit of encouragement

She'll be completely honest with me. I know she thinks I won't make a good manager because I back down so easily in order to avoid fights (BUT I'm getting MUCH better at standing my ground... though I still have a lot of work to do in that area.)

**Cataholic** · 11-12-2009, 11:01 AM

Originally Posted by catnapper

I called the former assistant manager this morning - we're having lunch together in a bit. I'm going to ask her what she thinks of me asking. I just need a bit of encouragement

She'll be completely honest with me. I know she thinks I won't make a good manager because I back down so easily in order to avoid fights (BUT I'm getting MUCH better at standing my ground... though I still have a lot of work to do in that area.)

Change your attitude on this for a moment. Instead of saying that you back down from conflict, say that you back away or off from conflict. That you are a natural conflict avoider. That can be a huge benefit, really. Someone that backs down or away from conflict also could be said to stand back from conflict. That can allow you time to re-think a strategy.

I couldn't back down from conflict if I tried. It just doesn't tear me up, make me nervous, etc. I actually like conflict, as I like working through issues, not around. I am lazy, I think.

**catnapper** · 11-12-2009, 11:05 AM

Originally Posted by Cataholic

I couldn't back down from conflict if I tried. It just doesn't tear me up, make me nervous, etc. I actually like conflict, as I like working through issues, not around. I am lazy, I think.

Thats what makes you a great lawyer!

**Cataholic** · 11-12-2009, 11:09 AM

Originally Posted by catnapper

Thats what makes you a great lawyer!

Well, I am sure if we give this enough time, I can get someone from somewhere else post in the negative on that. But, I am what I am (and I like spinach). It is just more that I can argue vehemently about a topic/subject without having an emotional investment in it. I blow up and blow over in about ten seconds. Perhaps it is that I am missing a soul.

**Marigold2** · 11-12-2009, 11:41 AM

Times are tough and those of us blessed with good jobs want to hold on to them no matter what. When I have a bad day it's mostly the patients not my co-workers thankfully. I just think about being home with my family and pets. Work is work, it's what I do not who I am. When I leave I try very hard to put that part away and just focus on family. It's what gets me through some tough days. Good luck to you.