Thank you all for being so forthright and up front.

My mom had a very rare kind of BC, she was stubborn and very brave at the same time.

Part of the reason that she would not go back to see the doc was the fact that he was a young dude and "she didn't like a young man looking at her".

She also told me about my grandfather who would chide my GM for going to the doctor's office.

"He just wants to look at your arse!" was his retort towards my G-Ma..

But, heaven help him when he needed to go see the MD. In a strange way I have a little animosity towards him just for THAT reason. I wonder how much that impacted my mom's attitude toward seeking help.

Again, thanks for all your notes and stories.

All of you do not owe me anything to 'git r done'.....But, I hope you do think about YOUR loved ones and do it for them.

You all really rock.