It feels as though you are living in the middle of a demilitarized zone, doesn’t it?

Many years ago we took in a stray who turned out to be an alpha male. Problem was we already had one of those. The new one, Phantom, got along fine with our 2 girl cats, but it just didn’t work out with the other male.

We tried for 3 months – then we found him a home where he was the only cat. He thrived, and calm was restored to our house.

It broke my heart – I felt like an abject failure. You have to think about Aroara and your own peace of mind.

We will support whatever decision you make