We didn't have any alcohol at our reception, just a light lunch and people had a nice time sitting around and gabbing. There was no dancing, because I am a klutz AND my brudder forgot the record player, but having Uncle Mac there (his other errand for the day) was far more important. We didn't have any organized activities, people just socialized.

If you are looking for nice activities for the reception, I was at one recently where the couple had prepared a slide show (all digital of course) of pictures of their life together, and pets. Also one nice thing from another wedding was the couple had a large white matte that they planned to display their wedding picture in, and all the guests signed it, with little saying and best wishes.

You can have toasts without alcohol - people just raise their glasses of ginger ale, water - whatever! - and toast.

Excited and nervous are both normal. As for favors, is there any theme or color scheme to the wedding?