Thanks guys, I wish I could talk to Kyle about it now but it will just put us in a huge fight. When I say anything about it, it's like he gets very offended -- as if I'm saying that he could have turned out better if it weren't for his mom doing all of the things I don't want her to do in front of our baby -- it really makes him angry, so I just let him get mad at her when he wants but otherwise I never say anything, or he'll turn it right back around on me. I'm the same with people I love, I guess.
We're *supposed* to move next year, which means she would nevr have to babysit.. so I'll go on the chance that we're sticking with that plan (I HOPE HOPE we are).
Oh, I forgot to mention one thing -- she started her babies off on pablum as SOON as they were born. She told me I should just start feeding the baby food right away because milk isn't enough!! Apparently that is why babies cry so much at night..because they are hungry and want food, not milk. So sure.
When the time comes (which I'm hoping it won't), that is when we'll have to have the discussion. But right now we both have way too much stress on our plates (he just started his new job and I'm having a baby next week!! ) to get into such a big fight (trust me, there is no "discussion" with him!! lol). Because he knows his mom won't compromise for us, so it would have to be a no-babysit basis rather than "she can't do this while babysitting," and I know if he told me MY mom couldn't babysit, I'd be livid. So I'll just take it as it goes. Since she lives farther away than most of our other "babysitters" and since we're supposed to move next year anyways, hoepfully we can just avoid the situation altogether.
Btw -- when I was 10 weeks old my grandparents fed me mashed potatoes and cranberry sauce (it was Christmas). My mom was SO MAD! LOL