Quote Originally Posted by wolfsoul View Post
I think Kyle feels the way I do for the most part -- he's pretty much told his mom to shut up, and after getting off the phone with her he'll say stuff like "god she drives me crazy sometimes, she just won't shut up." But I don't think the smoking and drinking thing bothers him. A friend was over the other day and says "I guess you can't really have your mom babysit huh?" And he says "why not?" She says "because she'll probably be drinking." And he said "Oh Hell, you think she wasn't drinking when me and my sisters were growing up? She can babysit." I was like oooh god. I think I will avoid the whole issue until it actually arises.. try to avoid the situation, if I know we have to go somewhere I'll quickly make arrangements with someone else, or say that so-and-so really wants to watch the baby this time.. I know I can't avoid it forever but I really don't want to get in a fight with him, and I really don't want him to become childish and say "well then YOUR mom can't babysit" or something.
Glad to hear I'm not the only one who has had issues. I think it's probably a common thing. You know one other thing that bugs me? She keeps saying how it's too bad Kyle's sister doesn't live here because I'll need help. Guess I'm incompetent, and Kyle won't be able to help me... I need someone to actually come LIVE with us!
You know, I used to LOVE going to my grandma and papa's house when I was a kid. They made good food, I always got ice cream for dessert, they would take me out to Dairy Queen, take me to watch parades or other fun events.. To be honest I don't think my baby will ever get to have fun with Kyle's mom. Her other grandchild is afraid of her.
I can't WAIT to move away.....
I agree that it would be a good idea to discuss this as soon as you can, before your baby is here. Once you have it resolved, you will feel better. You could say you are concerned about the smoking/drinking. If you would feel comfortable doing so, you could suggest that if his mom watches the baby it be at your place so she wouldn't be allowed to smoke or drink...or if that still makes you uncomfortable I would just say you don't feel comfortable having her babysit by herself.