2009 Pregnancy/baby thread

[JenBKR]

So sorry about your MIL - have you talked to Kyle about her? Does he know how you feel? It might be good to talk before you have the baby about all of this. I would make it a rule - no smoking around the baby. If you don't like it, too bad. That is something that I am very strict about.

My MIL drove me crazy after I had Ty. Everything I did was wrong. I understand that she meant well and was trying to help...but it seemed like she thought I was an idiot who couldn't handle a baby. Finally I told my husband that I didn't even want to go to see her anymore. He had a talk with her, and she started getting better. Now she is much better - she still makes the occasional comment but I have learned to just smile and nod.

[wolfsoul]

I think Kyle feels the way I do for the most part -- he's pretty much told his mom to shut up, and after getting off the phone with her he'll say stuff like "god she drives me crazy sometimes, she just won't shut up." But I don't think the smoking and drinking thing bothers him. A friend was over the other day and says "I guess you can't really have your mom babysit huh?" And he says "why not?" She says "because she'll probably be drinking." And he said "Oh Hell, you think she wasn't drinking when me and my sisters were growing up? She can babysit." I was like oooh god. I think I will avoid the whole issue until it actually arises.. try to avoid the situation, if I know we have to go somewhere I'll quickly make arrangements with someone else, or say that so-and-so really wants to watch the baby this time.. I know I can't avoid it forever but I really don't want to get in a fight with him, and I really don't want him to become childish and say "well then YOUR mom can't babysit" or something.
Glad to hear I'm not the only one who has had issues. I think it's probably a common thing. You know one other thing that bugs me? She keeps saying how it's too bad Kyle's sister doesn't live here because I'll need help. Guess I'm incompetent, and Kyle won't be able to help me... I need someone to actually come LIVE with us!
You know, I used to LOVE going to my grandma and papa's house when I was a kid. They made good food, I always got ice cream for dessert, they would take me out to Dairy Queen, take me to watch parades or other fun events.. To be honest I don't think my baby will ever get to have fun with Kyle's mom. Her other grandchild is afraid of her.
I can't WAIT to move away.....

[finn's mom]

Wolfsoul, I definitely think it would be in your family's best interest if you discussed how you felt about your mother in law babysitting before baby arrives. Emotions will probably run higher once baby is home and waiting until it comes up will likely make it more of an emotional fight, and much more stressful.

[Pembroke_Corgi]

I think Kyle feels the way I do for the most part -- he's pretty much told his mom to shut up, and after getting off the phone with her he'll say stuff like "god she drives me crazy sometimes, she just won't shut up." But I don't think the smoking and drinking thing bothers him. A friend was over the other day and says "I guess you can't really have your mom babysit huh?" And he says "why not?" She says "because she'll probably be drinking." And he said "Oh Hell, you think she wasn't drinking when me and my sisters were growing up? She can babysit." I was like oooh god. I think I will avoid the whole issue until it actually arises.. try to avoid the situation, if I know we have to go somewhere I'll quickly make arrangements with someone else, or say that so-and-so really wants to watch the baby this time.. I know I can't avoid it forever but I really don't want to get in a fight with him, and I really don't want him to become childish and say "well then YOUR mom can't babysit" or something.
Glad to hear I'm not the only one who has had issues. I think it's probably a common thing. You know one other thing that bugs me? She keeps saying how it's too bad Kyle's sister doesn't live here because I'll need help. Guess I'm incompetent, and Kyle won't be able to help me... I need someone to actually come LIVE with us!
You know, I used to LOVE going to my grandma and papa's house when I was a kid. They made good food, I always got ice cream for dessert, they would take me out to Dairy Queen, take me to watch parades or other fun events.. To be honest I don't think my baby will ever get to have fun with Kyle's mom. Her other grandchild is afraid of her.
I can't WAIT to move away.....

I agree that it would be a good idea to discuss this as soon as you can, before your baby is here. Once you have it resolved, you will feel better. You could say you are concerned about the smoking/drinking. If you would feel comfortable doing so, you could suggest that if his mom watches the baby it be at your place so she wouldn't be allowed to smoke or drink...or if that still makes you uncomfortable I would just say you don't feel comfortable having her babysit by herself.

[Cataholic]

I BF, but, mom gave J BM in a bottle. I think we just sliced open the whole a little bit, rather than go buy a new nipple. Can you do that?

[beeniesmom]

I BF, but, mom gave J BM in a bottle. I think we just sliced open the whole a little bit, rather than go buy a new nipple. Can you do that?

Sure but it's not really necessary. I bought a set that came with 3 sizes of nipples. I think she's still ok with the size 1. I was just curious as to when I was supposed to change from one to another.

[Pembroke_Corgi]

I'm not sure about the bottles...maybe just switch it when Laura seems like she's ready to eat faster or is frustrated because she's not getting food fast enough.

Here's another question for everyone- where are you going to get your baby's winter coat?? (Though maybe I am asking the wrong crowd because you all live in the south!)

I am just not impressed with what I have seen- all the coats seem flimsy and not very warm. We don't get really cold weather here in Denver much, but she will certainly need a warm coat in December and January, especially after dark! Any ideas?

[Karen]

Here's another question for everyone- where are you going to get your baby's winter coat?? (Though maybe I am asking the wrong crowd because you all live in the south!)

I am just not impressed with what I have seen- all the coats seem flimsy and not very warm. We don't get really cold weather here in Denver much, but she will certainly need a warm coat in December and January, especially after dark! Any ideas?

That's an easy one - check the second-hand stores, Goodwill, etc.. Babies grow so fast that they outgrow things like coats long before they put much wear into 'em. And you'll likely find more variety there than department stores as well!

[prechrswife]

I'm not sure about the bottles...maybe just switch it when Laura seems like she's ready to eat faster or is frustrated because she's not getting food fast enough.

Here's another question for everyone- where are you going to get your baby's winter coat?? (Though maybe I am asking the wrong crowd because you all live in the south!)

I am just not impressed with what I have seen- all the coats seem flimsy and not very warm. We don't get really cold weather here in Denver much, but she will certainly need a warm coat in December and January, especially after dark! Any ideas?

We're in the south, but when Mary Joyce was a baby, I found a decent winter coat at Old Navy. We lived in GA at the time. In FL, we made do with mid-range jackets last year because it never gets that terribly cold.

[JenBKR]

I'm not sure about the bottles...maybe just switch it when Laura seems like she's ready to eat faster or is frustrated because she's not getting food fast enough.

Here's another question for everyone- where are you going to get your baby's winter coat?? (Though maybe I am asking the wrong crowd because you all live in the south!)

I am just not impressed with what I have seen- all the coats seem flimsy and not very warm. We don't get really cold weather here in Denver much, but she will certainly need a warm coat in December and January, especially after dark! Any ideas?

When Ty was younger, I liked the one piece coats which I think are more like snowsuits. Here are a few pictures





This year I have a coat and pant suit that like a 2 piece snowsuit and I just plan on wearing the coat part on him as his regular winter coat. We got that at Pennys. I agree with you, a lot of the coats out are too light for the winter. Maybe the stores will come out with heavier coats later in the fall.