2009 Pregnancy/baby thread

[finn's mom]

Both of you girls look just right! It's so exciting to have so many ladies having babies!

Today is my 33rd birthday *and* Clara's one month birthday! YAY! It's amazing that it's been a month already!

[Pembroke_Corgi]

You both look great!

(And I am a little jealous...I got about 2 million stretch marks!)

Today is my 33rd birthday *and* Clara's one month birthday! YAY! It's amazing that it's been a month already!

Happy birthday to you, and happy 1 month birthday to Clara!

[wolfsoul]

Thanks guys! Dr says my belly should shrink back up no problem -- I hope so!

I got the swine flu the other day, and I think today is my last "kinda" sick day. I'm feeling pretty good actually. Hubby got it alot worse than I did, but I've been feeling not too bad, even took the dogs out to the dog beach this morning. It's more annoying than anything -- I HATE not being able to taste my food!! LOL. The infectious disease specialist wanted me on antivirals right away because I'm "high-risk" but I never did go on them. I knew it wouldn't be hard to fight off myself, and they don't even know what the drugs would do to the baby. I've just been eating well (lots of spicy stuff) and taking it easy-- lots of baths, lots of hot tea, and lots of rest.

Now, I feel the need to vent a bit. Does anyone else really dislike any of their parents in law? My MIL is driving me crazy. She's SO opinionated. I want to move away so I never have to see her or hear what she has to say, and I NEVER want her watching my baby -- she certainly wouldn't be sober and she'd chainsmoke around her. When her daughter had a baby, she took all of his soothers and cut the ends off of them. She's already TOLD me not to use soothers. Um, I'll do whatever I want, thank you.
She got all angry the other day, like "why would you be around sick people when you're pregnant?! You can't do that when you have a baby!" Uhh I wasn't around any sick people. It's freakin' airborne, I could've caught it anywhere, everyone has the swine flu right now (in my city).
When I first got pregnant she absolutely was CONVINCED that I was a month behind what they said I was. "You're not big enough, they counted it wrong, they gave you the wrong date." I counted the days with her on the calendar. "Well they aren't right, you can't be this far along, you're too small." I know the TWO days I had sex that month (I got a bladder infection soon after and stopped having sex until my treatment was over, too uncomfortable), and I am actually FARTHER ALONG than they think I am.
And now she is bugging us about the drugs. She WANTS me to get the epidural -- she is like pushing it. WHY? Why does it make a difference to her? But you know what -- I'm glad!! Because I want a natural birth so bad, and her wanting me to use drugs is going to deter me from using them, no matter how much pain I'm in. I'd rather be in excrutiating pain than give her the satisfaction of knowing that I "gave up" (her words) like she wants me to.
She also argued with Kyle about the types of drugs they use. I've read every book and been to prenatal classes, I know they can give you narcotics in the early stages of labor. She refuses to believe us -- they would never give you demerol, morphine, etc -- she worked at the hospital for years, so of course she knows. She even argued with him about smoking during pregnancy. She chainsmoked during all of her pregnancies, and when my hubby came out with asthma she didn't think anything of it. Now she tells us "your baby could get asthma because you had it when you were young." We told her that prenatal smoking would have caused that, and she didn't believe us. She still smokes around me constantly and has no respect for me. I could never leave my baby alone with her because she would smoke right in front of her (and drink...and drink..).
God I really hope she doesn't come visit us all the time when we have the baby. My mom listens to everything I have to say, and she never TELLs me to do anything -- she can suggest things from her own experiences, but she respects whatever I have to say, and she never makes it sound like her word is gold and it can only be done her way. Apparently my MIL is the only right one.
Ahh.. just needed to vent. I am so afraid that Kyle is going to want her to babysit one day, and when I say no he's going to think I'm a complete cow. I'm afraid when I say no that he'll turn it around and make it so MY mom can't babysit. So frustrating!

[Pembroke_Corgi]

I'm sorry to hear about your mother-in-law. The smoking and drinking would really bother me, too. I don't care who it is- I wouldn't want them smoking around my baby!

My in-laws and I have always gotten along, but my MIL is a bit more annoying to me now, since she often has unsolicited (if good intentioned) advice and she is, of course, always right. I just smile and nod and do things my way. It really isn't a problem because they live 1,000 miles away.

[beeniesmom]

Sorry to hear about your MIL problems.
Mine can drive me nuts but for the most part I tollerate her.
I guess she means well.

Question:
When do I switch from #1 nipples to the next size?

[JenBKR]

So sorry about your MIL - have you talked to Kyle about her? Does he know how you feel? It might be good to talk before you have the baby about all of this. I would make it a rule - no smoking around the baby. If you don't like it, too bad. That is something that I am very strict about.

My MIL drove me crazy after I had Ty. Everything I did was wrong. I understand that she meant well and was trying to help...but it seemed like she thought I was an idiot who couldn't handle a baby. Finally I told my husband that I didn't even want to go to see her anymore. He had a talk with her, and she started getting better. Now she is much better - she still makes the occasional comment but I have learned to just smile and nod.

[wolfsoul]

I think Kyle feels the way I do for the most part -- he's pretty much told his mom to shut up, and after getting off the phone with her he'll say stuff like "god she drives me crazy sometimes, she just won't shut up." But I don't think the smoking and drinking thing bothers him. A friend was over the other day and says "I guess you can't really have your mom babysit huh?" And he says "why not?" She says "because she'll probably be drinking." And he said "Oh Hell, you think she wasn't drinking when me and my sisters were growing up? She can babysit." I was like oooh god. I think I will avoid the whole issue until it actually arises.. try to avoid the situation, if I know we have to go somewhere I'll quickly make arrangements with someone else, or say that so-and-so really wants to watch the baby this time.. I know I can't avoid it forever but I really don't want to get in a fight with him, and I really don't want him to become childish and say "well then YOUR mom can't babysit" or something.
Glad to hear I'm not the only one who has had issues. I think it's probably a common thing. You know one other thing that bugs me? She keeps saying how it's too bad Kyle's sister doesn't live here because I'll need help. Guess I'm incompetent, and Kyle won't be able to help me... I need someone to actually come LIVE with us!
You know, I used to LOVE going to my grandma and papa's house when I was a kid. They made good food, I always got ice cream for dessert, they would take me out to Dairy Queen, take me to watch parades or other fun events.. To be honest I don't think my baby will ever get to have fun with Kyle's mom. Her other grandchild is afraid of her.
I can't WAIT to move away.....

[JenBKR]

Question:
When do I switch from #1 nipples to the next size?

We switched to #2 when it seemed like Ty was getting frustrated with getting the milk out of the nipple. I don't remember how old he was though. I tried out the #2 and he seemed happier. You could always try it and see how it goes. We only used the #3s for bottles with a little cereal added when he was a little older.

[prechrswife]

Sorry to hear about your MIL problems.
Mine can drive me nuts but for the most part I tollerate her.
I guess she means well.

Question:
When do I switch from #1 nipples to the next size?

I think the usual is around 6 months, but if she starts getting frustrated with it, you can switch sooner. Our #1 size are wearing out, but we aren't quite ready to switch yet. I'm trying to make the ones we have hold out instead of buying new ones to use for a month.