Upset..

[Taz_Zoee]

My question is why can't Hank go camping??

But I agree with Ellie, you already had plans and it sounds like your mom assumed you'd be home to care for Hank. My friends mom always did this to her when we were in high school, only it was her little handicapped brother, not a dog.

I hope you can figure something out so you don't have to cancel your plans.

[Twisterdog]

If you were going to be home over the weekend anyway, then your mom would certainly be ok asking you to take care of the dog.

I do think she should have asked ahead of time, though, and not just assumed. And once she learned you already had plans, she should have made other arrangements.

OTOH, you are an adult, and living in your parents home (I assume) rent-free. Technically, your parents could have expected you to make it on your own dime seven years ago. So since they are still providing for you to some degree, I do think you owe them something, too. Maybe not this particular weekend, but in general.

[Cataholic]

Was your mom aware of your plans? I can't remember where you live and what a trip to Cleveland entails. For me, it is 4 hours in the car, so, I couldn't go and come back on one day with a dog at home. Is it possible that you could go and come home? Or, would you have to spend the night out of town?

I think when FAMILIES live together, whether one is 2, 12, 20 or 25 (or even older!) there are no "my rights" vs. "their rights". You help out, you shoulder duties you may not feel are your own. Heck, my 5 year old told me the other day that he doesn't play with the cat toys, so why does he have to clean them up??? My response? We live as a family in this house, we all pitch in and do our part.

I read your post the same way I read Genny's post. This isn't about age, how old someone is, etc. It is about family. And, sometimes life doesn't roll the way you want it to.

As for 25 only coming around once? Most ages only come around once. I might see your point more if you were turning 16, 18 or 21. 25? Honey, that just puts you one step closer to 30, IMO.

Sorry that this upsets Mike. Doesn't really seem like it should.

[lvpets2002]

Yes my questions too are = Why Hank cant be boarded & or go camping with your mother & or have a pet sitter.. I think your mother may say since she pays the bills & your under her roof then you must drop everything for her.. I would say there should be a very simple easy solution to this.. Try not to make your self so upset & sick over this.. Happy Early Birthday & I am sure all will work out for the best..

[CountryWolf07]

Was your mom aware of your plans? I can't remember where you live and what a trip to Cleveland entails. For me, it is 4 hours in the car, so, I couldn't go and come back on one day with a dog at home. Is it possible that you could go and come home? Or, would you have to spend the night out of town?

I think when FAMILIES live together, whether one is 2, 12, 20 or 25 (or even older!) there are no "my rights" vs. "their rights". You help out, you shoulder duties you may not feel are your own. Heck, my 5 year old told me the other day that he doesn't play with the cat toys, so why does he have to clean them up??? My response? We live as a family in this house, we all pitch in and do our part.

I read your post the same way I read Genny's post. This isn't about age, how old someone is, etc. It is about family. And, sometimes life doesn't roll the way you want it to.

As for 25 only coming around once? Most ages only come around once. I might see your point more if you were turning 16, 18 or 21. 25? Honey, that just puts you one step closer to 30, IMO.

Sorry that this upsets Mike. Doesn't really seem like it should.

True, but it upsets him more that I am not treated as my age. I caved in and avoid any further arguments with her and I am going to watch Hank over the weekend and hopefully still have fun. She knew I had plans, but I didn't know she had plans until the other day when she let me know about what she was doing. That part, not fair on me, but that's fine. I have realized that feeling this way is telling me that I am ready to move out, and hopefully I will only be at home for a year then move out. I definitely thought I would be on my own at 25, but things didn't work out that way but that's okay.

I asked if she'd take Hank camping, but she said he'd be too much to handle. Go figure.