I have a moment so yes I will try and answer your question as best as I can.
What I meant by mental or physical is that if a person has a mental issue such as depression which can come about through a physical condition or a tramatic incident I don't feel it is a proper time to have a child until one is healed. If one is bi-polar and this disease is not stabilized on medicine it is not fair in my opinion to bring a child into this world when one is mentally stressed and having problems. The same can be said in my opinion for schizophrenia if the condition is to the point that you cannot function and take care of yourself then no I don't believe you should have a child until you are able to take care of yourself.
Also if you have a physical condition that keeps you from taking care of yourself such as cancer, heart disease or a thousand others I don't think it is fair to bring a child into this world if you probably won't be around to raise said child or be healthy enough to spend time with them.
It is not up to the grandparents to raise the child, they did their job and they are getting older and will have health issues. It is not fair for grandma who is 68 to have to raise a 14 year old with welfare money and social security.
Yes people lose their jobs, people get cancer, have car accidents, fall of the roof, lose an arm or a leg to accidents. I am not talking about those things. I am talking about people who decide to have a child when they are unable to take care of themselves and know that the chance of ever being able to take care of themselves is slim. I am talking about people who are on welfare for gererations. Welfare was designed for short term care to help people get training and get back on their feet. It should be there to help and there are many who deserve it and also deserve more money then what the government gives them so they can live a decent life and not feel deprived because they fought for our country and lost their eyesight or a limb.
And there are those that decide to have another child so they can stay on welfare longer and food stamps.
Again if one is on welfare or medicaid I think you have to look deep inside and ask yourself if having a child is the right thing to do today, tomorrrow and years from now. If the need to be with a child is so great perhaps being a foster mom or a big brother or a favorite aunt or uncle, working in a day care or reading to sick children in a hospital can be just as for forfilling in the long run.
So I hope that answers your question and if not well it's how I feel and that is that.
Originally Posted by pomtzu
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