Is this fair?

[kuhio98]

You're living in her home and she's still taking care of you. So, you abide by her rules.

Maybe she's trying to make it a little uncomfortable for you because she thinks it's time you get out on your own and become an adult. (Like you said, when she was your age, she had a lot more responsibility than you do).

I'm not saying that she wants you to leave, but if she continues to take care of you like a child, why would you ever leave? So, maybe if she makes it a little uncomfortable for you, she hopes you will take the next step towards independence.

Is that possible?

[Taz_Zoee]

I agree with Sparks. I lived at home in my twentys, off and on. While I didn't have a curfew I did have other rules I had to obide by. My parents did not like for me to have a guy sleep over in my room (which now that I'm in my thirties, I totally understand). I had one boyfriend that did ocassionally stay over and when he did I let him sleep in my bed and I slept downstairs on the couch.
Abide by their rules but you could also negotiate things with them. You'll be home later, but you'll do an extra thing around the house to make up for it. I don't know. Just show them that you are an adult and don't need to be treated like a child. Try to pay some of your bills when you can so they don't have to. I know you probably can't ALL the time, but when you can.

Good luck.

[kitten645]

Her house, her rules unfortunately It may be time to start looking for your own place.
However, as far as your brother goes, he should mind his own dang business. If he's 29 and still living at home, perhaps he should be addressing his own issues instead of butting into your life
Claudia

[Genny]

You're living in her home and she's still taking care of you. So, you abide by her rules.

Maybe she's trying to make it a little uncomfortable for you because she thinks it's time you get out on your own and become an adult. (Like you said, when she was your age, she had a lot more responsibility than you do).

I'm not saying that she wants you to leave, but if she continues to take care of you like a child, why would you ever leave? So, maybe if she makes it a little uncomfortable for you, she hopes you will take the next step towards independence.

Is that possible?

Uhhh...I don't think that's what it is...I think she just really wants me to be at home most of the time so she'll know that I'm 'there' 'right there' 'with her'. My dad asks me alot when I'm gonna find me my own place..he's only just talking he doesn't care if I'm still at home, but my mom always speaks up and says that I don't ever have to leave I can stay here forever. I think she'd like that to be honest..and right now I am happy at home...I couldn't get my own place right now even if I wanted to. But..someday....in the future the time will come when I do move out..I don't know when...but I know it will. Honestly...I don't wanna be alone...so I plan on staying here until I get married...which could be a while...so I dunno

[blue]

Its not fair, but its her house so her rules.

[joycenalex]

genny, like most others have said, her house, her rules. it's not fair, i can see her point, i can see yours as well. since your work hours aren't a lot, a couple suggestions.....(do with what you want) get into a community college and learn a trade or a job skill that will pay you better then fast food/retail store wages.{insert personal history here... i worked in poor paying party stores for years, then the store closed and i was out of work, took my unemp. monies and went to community college, learned an excellent job skill...i've never had to worry about having work again.....} think very carefully about some type of skill that interests you... health care, office management, hair styling, skilled trades. there is more money then working in fast food/lower end retail(no dispespect to anone doing that type of work at all) working part time at there and going to school will show that you are getting the idea and you're a responsible woman, and having that paper with a 2 year degree will help a lot. second idea...do you have young female friends that you can live with? living hand to mouth in a party house with close friends is an age appropiate behavior{NO personal history here}