I just can't believe this...panic in gut UPDATE: #22; finally an email

[Scooter's Mom]

Please send the kitties somewhere safe while you're away on your cruise.

[Catty1]

Re: kitties...they are already being boarded at the kennel where I used to work. Mom and I decided that the first day N went back out.

I've already emailed my property manager (fastest way to reach her) and asked about switching out the lock. It's possible that our handyman has a couple with keys lying around. If not, local hardware store will have some.

I am not all that concerned about him arriving while I am here...it's while I am away.

My downstairs neighbour, former railway cop, has been notified to keep an eye out.

And his other friends have been put on alert.

The damn thing about situations like this is that there was some GOOD in it...damn...

But N has to get healthier before he can even think of setting foot back in here.

It's just a true shame, and a waste of a human being...that's what it is.

Thank you ALL for the cautions...I am getting everything together, no worries.

[Pinot's Mom]

Prayers for everything to be OK.

[cassiesmom]

Prayers for everything to be OK.

from here too

[K9karen]

One thing I love about you, C, is that you're so wise and strong. If anyone can handle this, you can. Of course it's horrible, but you're doing the best thing. I just want you to be safe and happy. You know I adore you.

[carole]

I agree, you know how to handle this and you will do it just fine,try and relax and enjoy your cruise, don't let this spoil it for you.BTW where are you going?

[Catty1]

The Cruise - we fly to Montreal on September 11. The following day, we board the MS Maasdam, which happens to be the first ship on which I ever worked (piano bar!). We are doing the New England - fall colours cruise.

Day 2 - Quebec City. We're doing 2 shore excursions.
Day 3 - at sea. Rest up from Day 2!
Day 4 - Charlottetown PEI, where we visit Anne of Green Gables fame. (Just remembered we have a PTr in PEI!)
Day 5 - Sydney Nova Scotia. Some walking tour of old rich houses...was talking with a guy today who is from Sydney. Many many people have cancer as a result of the toxins from the old steel mill.
Day 6 - Halifax NS: My cousin and his wife and two boys live there. Kirsten will be meeting us and hauling us off! She loves doing that.
Day 7 - Bar Harbour, Maine. Maybe THIS is where we are doing the walking through some old rich houses. Can't recall.
Day 8 - Boston. Trying to find out about do-able parking for Karen...another friend is doing the research.

Day 9 - Fly to Ottawa, then Calgary!

[Medusa]

Some good is not good enough. But you know that, Candace, so I won't rub salt in the wound by harping on it. You deserve better and this much drama is not going to improve. It's bound to happen again only maybe next time it'll be worse. I'm glad that if it had to happen at all that it's happening now. Be rid of him, get the locks changed ASAP and go on that cruise w/a new beginning before you. Prayers going up for you right now, girlfriend.

[MoonandBean]

Sorry this is happening! You have gotten good advise. I will add Al-Anon if you're not already doing that. {HUGS}

[moosmom]

Medusa is a wise woman. Out to the curb with him and change the locks ASAP.

My daughter is engaged to a recovering alcoholic and he is wonderful. However, I do worry about relapses. I'm not one to point fingers because I've had relapses (the last one a year ago and believe me IT WAS AWFUL AND EMBARASSING). We talk and he said that his 7 year old son was what opened his eyes and made him realize he had a problem. He's been sober since.

I dated a guy who was in recovering as well. We looked out for each other, went to meetings together, etc. He turned out to be a real jerk, cheating on me. THE END. I'm glad I'm single.

Hang in there Candace. Stay strong for YOURSELF and your furbabies. You don't need someone like that to drag you down and jeopardize your sobriety.

[Catherinedana]

Candace,

His addiction is not your responsibility nor is it your cross to bear. Be strong, do the right thing and take care of yourself. You deserve the best in life!

Cathy

[Catty1]

Thanks, guys!

M&B - I went ROARING to an Al-Anon meeting on Friday - we have two here a week. Usually I am down the hall with my Bill friends - got a bit of good natured teasing afterwards about 'going to the other side' LOL.

Will make Fridays my meeting night...Monday is my home group, so may go back and forth.

Yes, I KNOW the stuff you say I know. Waiting to hear about the locks. As it turns out I don't have to go anywhere this morning and am supposed to call a guy in program about storing all this stuff in his garage.

[Alysser]

Catty, I am so sorry this is happening right now. Just remember, it's not you who needs to straighten out. I hope everything goes well and it'll work itself out, I promise. many (((Hugs)))