I'm Torn...His family or Mine?

[CountryWolf07]

I have been in the same boat as you. However, I would choose going to your grandfather's birthday - if it was his last hurrah, I would go anyways - despite the fact he says these things - I would think, if you didn't attend, it would definitely NOT look great on your side with the family. I know it's tough, very tough, but family comes first.

[M&M's Mommy]

I, too, would go to your grandfather's birthday, specially when his health is failing and this could be his last birthday party.. If you don't go, and God forbits he won't have another birthday for you to celebrate, you'll regret it for life.

Your bf mother should understand. The most negative thing she could talk about you not being able to attend the baby shower is that you put your family first - and that, in my opinion, is not a negative thing at all.

[moosmom]

Your Grandfather's 80th birthday is far more important. Any way you can make mini visits to all of them. This way no one can really be heart.

Good luck!!

[Twisterdog]

I would go to Grandpa's party. Time is short. My dad passed away at age 82, and I would give almost anything for one more day with him. Even if your grandpa is grumpy, I'd go. I bet we are going to be grumpy when we are 80 and dealing with aches and pains of old age, too.

Like someone else, if his family doesn't understand that ... red flag.