Things are great, but.. ? [relationship question]

[K9karen]

We know when we're loved.

Actions speak louder than words.

Some people, women included, just can't say those words.
Luckily, I grew up in an atmosphere where it was said constantly.
I occassionally tell my bff of 50+ years how much I love her and she'll reply "you too", or "yup* but her actions towards me all these years proves she does.

Those words mean a lot to me, but John and I don't often say it to each other and we've been together 7 years. I don't feel the need.

But I know you've mentioned this before. IMO, if Mike didn't love you, I doubt you'd still be together. You should tell him how you feel anyway. Just don't be pushy (you know what I mean). Didn't you say Mike was a Saggatarius? So is my bff. I think it's a coincidence, of course, but having dated a Sag for a while, years ago, ILU was never uttered.

[catnapper]

Things I've learned in life is to follow my own heart instead of listening to what others feel. So he hasn't said "I love you" in words. Would you have stayed with him for 3 years if he didn't tell you in a million other ways? Its easy for your family to day its weird... they aren't with you every time you're together.

While reading your post, all I could think of was the movie "Ghost" where Patrick Swayze only said "ditto" when she told him that she loved him. He obviously loved her, he just couldn't say it.

Who's to say what is weird? I tell my husabnd I love him a hundred times a day.... many might think its weird to tell someone you love them so much. It just feels right to me.

[CountryWolf07]

Thanks to everyone who took the time to read my post(s) - I really appreciate it. I know how I feel about him, how he feels about me, it's just more than any words can say really. It's true, I'm at a crossroad right now and figuring things out on my own, but I gotta admit, I just know, the last three years, it's been worth it and still is worth it to be with someone like him. He is a wonderful guy, sure, some flaws I don't like that he has, but it's what makes him "him". He brought up something to remind me that he was always who he's been and I must've just "realized" it now instead of before. Go figure, but hey, it's change, I suppose. I was in college the last 2 years and now I am back at home and now I kind of "see" things now, more like how things are really like. I gotta say, it is tough sometimes when I hear a lot of people I know say, "Don't you want him to say these words? How do you really know?" or "I think that's weird, I don't understand how you can be with someone who is different, etc." I do ADMIT sometimes it does get me thinking too much. All I know is, I'd rather be with him than anybody else. We also got to talk about "the future", and that, we don't have to talk about it right now, but by sometimes next year, it will be talked about. So that's good for the both of us, it's all we can really do for now.

Ok, I guess last night we held hands, but hey. Not bad right? I told him that I like to hold hands and that I wouldn't do it with him because I knew he didn't like to do that, and he said "Ok, hey, I don't care, if you want to hold hands, then take my hand." - I think we have cleared up that part... hopefully. I guess it is all about timing.

Catnapper - The way we say good night to eachother/goodbye, we always say "Good night and adios!" - I think that's become more of our "I love you" instead of actually saying these words. It's my take on it.

Finnsmom - I agree. It's all about timing. When we met, where we are, it's the right timing for the both of us. I absolutely do not doubt him that he does love me. I know it, he just isn't good with words. He said he will try really hard to be open.

Anyways, I think from our talk we've had over the weekend has helped us see some things and I think it will be okay. I have faith in us, and that's all I can say.