Things are great, but.. ? [relationship question]

[RICHARD]

I'll say it again: we know when we're loved.

Here's a soda and ice.

[chocolatepuppy]

We don't hold hands, etc. any like of the normal couples you'd see out there in public

Normal? Ha ha! We've been married 33 years and my hubby's not a hand holder. I've probably heard 'I love you' a dozen times and said it a few more than that. He will sign 'love' on cards.
Rachel, I think the most important thing is what do YOU want and will you be happy with things the way they are. IMO, he will not change, at least, not much. I agree with Mary, you KNOW when you are loved.