Is it okay to say goodbye

[RedHedd]

I will try and be as calm as possible. I have not responded to this thread because I didn't want to respond in anger, but I have to voice an opinion on behalf of the cat who happens to reside in your house. I went back and read every post from you in all threads before I said a word.

You are abusing this cat. The poor thing seems to crave attention and love and is getting none. It needs to be rehomed before it becomes hostile due to your "treatment". All of us have dealt with issues (regarding the behavior of our cats) that are trying but we don't throw things at them, chase them around the house, or scare the living daylights out of them. One acquaintance of mine did that ONCE (chased her and scared her) to my Pinot-girl. I've known this man for over 25 years; after that incident he has not been invited back to my home. She can be a trial, but she's my girl, and that won't change. Period. That's the way it should be with any pet in your home. They're your children. If that's not the case, they belong somewhere else, and you shouldn't have any pets. I hope this kitty finds the loving home it needs.

That's all I can say and it was as controlled as I could make it.

Thank you. I couldn't have said it any better.

[engsohere]

I know many of you may think I'm a monster and my conduct reproachable. I fully comprehend the things I've done to my cat are disgusting and vile. There are no excuses for my actions. Nothing can be said or done to undo what has happened. I am not concerned about what you may think of me as a person. My concern is carrying out the best course of action for the well-being of my cat.

I'm not a parent and have never had children, but I would imagine what I'm going through now would be similar to a parent saying goodbye to their child. It's not an easy decision. Truth be told, there's a part of me that wants to put in the effort and make things right, then there's another part of me that wants to throw in the towel and let the chips fall where they may. I've said before that I've stopped loving my cat. It dawned on me that love is not a feeling, it's something you do and express by action. I asked myself would I keep him if I had unlimited resources? Then I realized it's not about how much or if I still loved him, it's about how much I'm willing to do to keep him.

People who love and care about animals are a special breed, especially those who love animals nobody wants. When I see what some of you have sacrificed to keep your pets beside you, it serves as a reminder I am in no position to complain. I admire your compassionate heart and your selfless dedication.

It's strange the things you will disclose to people you don't know when you have the protection of anonymity. If you ask me what I hoped to accomplish by posting my story I honestly can't tell you exactly. I do know there are many of you on here way smarter than me and have a better perspective on life than I probably ever will.

For those of you who sent me kind thoughts and prayers, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Ultimately, I need to make the final decision on my own. I will do my very best to keep my emotions in check and do what's best for my cat.

[catmandu]

We will not judge, we just hope that Your Cat can find a New Furrever Home.

[Lizzie]

I've sent you a pm asking if you can, and want to, send your cat to me so that I can foster him until I can place him in an adoption center through the shelter where I volunteer. I see from your previous posts that his name is Karma and the photographs you posted show him to be a very lovely cat. I'm sure we can find him a new home fairly easily. This is a time, as it is when our pets are suffering through a terminal illness, to be unselfish and think only of the cat.

[pomtzu]

I've sent you a pm asking if you can, and want to, send your cat to me so that I can foster him until I can place him in an adoption center through the shelter where I volunteer. I see from your previous posts that his name is Karma and the photographs you posted show him to be a very lovely cat. I'm sure we can find him a new home fairly easily. This is a time, as it is when our pets are suffering through a terminal illness, to be unselfish and think only of the cat.

What a generous offer. I hope this person takes you up on it. Bless you for going above and beyond for this kitty.

[stinkysmom]

It was so upsetting to read about engsohere's poor kitty. Especially the part where he defecated. He didn't do anything wrong and deserves the best. His luck seems to be looking up already because of you.

[orangemm]

bump

[Cataholic]

For the cats that I still live with, the ones that have died from sickness and old age, and for the cats I do not know- including your own, my heart is breaking.

I will help, Lizzie, financially. Simply send me a pm with the details if you hear further.

[Lizzie]

Thank you, Cataholic, that's very generous of you. Unfortunately, I haven't heard from engsohere. I hope we hear something soon because we are all going to worry until we do.

[Italia]

It's a fact that some people are not meant to care for pets... You need to have the right heart and the right attitude of taking on the resposibility of loving and caring for an animal... even if they're not behaving in the manner that they should be.
It is absolutely not acceptable to mistreat an animal... For Any Reason!
I have to honestly say that im so deeply disturbed by reading this thread! On the other hand i'm glad it's here... The world needs to be reminded of animal cruelty so that changes can be made, and that these innocent furbabies get the love they deserve and so badly want.

I do hope that this fur baby finds a home that will love and take proper care for him for the rest of his life, and that he can forget the trauma that i hope will soon become his past.

To those of you wanting to help and are in arms reach... God Bless you!

[Medusa]

I'm not convinced that this is even a genuine post, I don't know. Whatever the case, this person is abusive by his own admission. It's also abuse to do this to people here on PT as well. Unfortunately, I've had more than my share of experience w/abusers of animals and women and children. They all get a sick kick out of getting people all worked up over their actions and/or, in this case, their words. If this does turn out to be a genuine case and Lizzie is able to rescue this cat, I, too, will donate but not unless and until I get proof that she has the cat in her possession. Abusers always have excuses for their behavior, none of which is acceptable in my eyes. I'm not hard hearted, just experienced and I know a line of BS when I hear it.

[lvpets2002]

That was just what I was thinking as well Mary.. I do hope that if this person is true then they will give the baby to Lizzie..

I'm not convinced that this is even a genuine post; perhaps it's another troll, I don't know. Whatever the case, this person is abusive by his own admission. It's also abuse to do this to people here on PT as well. Unfortunately, I've had more than my share of experience w/abusers of animals and women and children. They all get a sick kick out of getting people all worked up over their actions and/or, in this case, their words. If this does turn out to be a genuine case and Lizzie is able to rescue this cat, I, too, will donate but not unless and until I get proof that she has the cat in her possession. Abusers always have excuses for their behavior, none of which is acceptable in my eyes. I'm not hard hearted, just experienced and I know a line of BS when I hear it.

[Medusa]

That was just what I was thinking as well Mary.. I do hope that if this person is true then they will give the baby to Lizzie..

I, for one, hope that it isn't true. I hate the thought of a cat being abused. It keeps me up at night which is just what abusers love, that control over others, the power trip. I get angrier every time I read this thread.

[lvpets2002]

Yes I agree.. Well we will soon find out wont we.. If Lizzie gets a reply of they to take the baby then we will know wont we.. If Lizzie does not hear anything then that will tell all & the person went down under.. I just hope the kitty gets too a Safe & Loving Home..

I, for one, hope that it isn't true. I hate the thought of a cat being abused. It keeps me up at night which is just what abusers love, that control over others, the power trip. I get angrier every time I read this thread.

[Grace]

Like Mary, I wonder if this is for real. However, engsohere/Allen has posted on this board previously.

His introductory post is here - http://petoftheday.com/talk/showthread.php?t=129725

Next came this - http://petoftheday.com/talk/showthread.php?t=130004

Last year the cat was barfing, and he had no vet, or at least, none that he trusted - http://petoftheday.com/talk/showthread.php?t=142224

Is he for real, or does he just have an itch to aggravate once every 12 months?