Oh that's too bad. I had a similar experience w/a friend of a friend. My CH baby Creamsicle jumped up on her lap and this woman's arms flew out to her sides as if she would get leprosy if she touched Cgirl. She said to her "You've got the wrong person, cat!" That did nothing to endear her to me, to say the least. Like Lily, Cgirl was not to be deterred and she kept trying. I said "She'll leave you alone if you pet her" so she took one finger and lightly stroked Cgirl. Grrrrr. Tell Lily not to feel rejected. It's your sister's loss. I'm sorry that this occurred w/a family member, Kirsten. My situation was bad enough but it must be especially painful for you. Give Lily an extra gentle pet for me and a "neener neener neener", too, to anyone who won't pet a sweet little cat who only wants love.