It is better to find a way to be happy with yourself, first, I believe. That way, when you have the blessing of just the right partner, it is an added gift. I believe the people who have found the most happiness, single or married, are those who are comfortable with themselves first. I was there.......happy with my life, alone, and then things have changed for the better. I can certainly understand your feelings about the 1-2 year relationships......being built up, then disappointed.

We have great examples of both kinds here on Pet Talk, many who are so content and happy alone, and those who found the right person to share their life with. I wish only the best things for you.

Logan