I'm here to tell you that MOST military men are not abusers. I'm married to an Army vet and Mike would rather commit a crime than to hit me. In fact, he's more likely to beat the living hell out of a man who abuses a woman. I believe cops are the same way. Yes, there are a few bad seeds out there that give the rest a bad name, but they are in the definite minority. I would NOT have married Mike though if he had still been in the military simply because I don't want my husband away from me for months at a time. My sister is married to a former Marine and she has lived the vast majority of her life that way. Her husband would go out on floats for months at a time and she would be home raising their 2 boys by herself...not a life that I would ever choose. I have the utmost respect for our military personel because they put their lives on the line for the rest of us so we can sit here and post on Pet Talk and say whatever we feel without fear of retribution.

Lalania, you will find the perfect fit sometime, and until then, HAVE FUN! I know I did. I enjoyed my single days with no commitments, and I thoroughly enjoy my married life now. I think I do enjoy it so much because I got my party days out of my system and was ready to settle down. Before I was married, going to bars/clubs meant dancing, laughing, checking out the scenery. Now, all I think about is...do I really want to go and smell like a smoke stack when I leave! lol How times change! You'll have a great time!