Advice Wanted: Another cat coming to us! Small Update

**phesina** · 03-21-2009, 07:26 PM

Welcome home, Misty! You can eat and drink all you want, when you are ready to.

God love you and bless you for all you are doing for her, Kate.

**CultureJunky** · 03-22-2009, 09:21 AM

Unfortunately the situation with sweet Misty hasn't worked out as we had hoped. She arrived on Wednesday and has not settled well at all, it's quite clear that she needs to be a one cat household with no other animals and attention lavished on her only.

She has eaten only a few treats and had a few sips of water since Wednesday, she has also kept us up nearly all night three nights in a row which has been horrendous and we are both feeling quite ill through lack of sleep. She's been pulling up the carpet, banging the doors and generally being so stressed it's a wonder she hasn't had a heart attack poor thing.

So I have contacted her owner and said for her sake she needs to go back home to her as the way things are going she's going to end up hospitalised due to lack of food or a severe stress related problem.

I have found information online regarding allergies and came across a product called Petalcleanse which has proved very successful and was proven to alleviate the symptoms of 90% of sufferers. I have printed this out to give to her owner.
I have also found a lovely sanctuary that rehomes cats in the same place as where Misty's owner lives , she did in fact email these but it came back. I rang yesterday and spoke at length with the receptionist and they have an 8 week waiting list but then as soon as a space comes up, they take the next cat in. If Misty's owner puts her on the waiting list tomorrow (Monday) then it shouldn't be too long (around 2 and half months or so) until she can get a place here. There is alink here to the rescue place, it's a lovely centre that rescues and rehomes all sorts of animals and have recently had a new cattery built.
http://www.allcreaturesgreatandsmall.org.uk/

I am devastated that it hasn't worked out for Misty, but she is so sensitive to Sunny and Xavi's presence that it's making the poor cat ill. It is also making us feel really ill due to lack of sleep, and as we both work, we do need to have a settled nightime routine, this seems to be Misty's main time for being petrified of being alone, but she will not settle and meows constantly because She can smell our other cats.
She is a lovely cat, with a sweet natured personality, but needs to be the only cat for whoever eventually adopts her.

I am really hoping her owner will keep her, and try to find a way around her situation with her stepmother's asthma and allergies.
I have asked her owner to let me know if Misty does go to the sanctuary or if she stays, as I am interested naturally in her welfare and where she goes (as I am with all animals)

I just feel like a total failure at this moment in time, but I did all I could to, everything in the book of cat care, but it hasn't worked. I feel physically sick also through lack of sleep and know that I can't go weeks without sleep when I'm trying to hold down my first ever job.

I hope I haven't come across as being selfish or dismissive, but I really did try so hard to settle Misty into our household, but it just hasn't worked.

I feel very sad and gutted right now

Kate

**krazyaboutkatz** · 03-22-2009, 04:50 PM

Kate, I'm so sorry to hear this

but you're doing what's best for Misty so please don't beat yourself up about it. Hopefully her former owner will be able to find the right kind of solution for her stepmother's asthma and allergies. At least she also has the cat sanctuary as another option. You are doing what's best for your home, your health, and for Misty so please don't forget that. I hope that everything will go well. Take care. (((HUGS)))

**Pinot's Mom** · 03-23-2009, 01:18 PM

Kate, you can never be wrong for trying. You did your best, and Misty had other plans, you can't help that. Try not to blame yourself; you don't deserve it.

**katladyd** · 03-23-2009, 02:08 PM

Sometimes our homes, though loving, are not where a cat is supposed to be. It's okay. This frees Misty to find her furever home, and that can only be good.

**Freedom** · 03-23-2009, 06:12 PM

Kate, you tried hard to make her comfortable at your home. Now that is not working, you have even found ways to help Misty be happy for the future, in her original home, or if not, you found a sanctuary that could accept her.

In the long run, you HAVE helped Misty, just not in the way that you planned. HUGS to you, my friend. Best wishes to Kevin for seeing this through with you. Sending calming pets to Sunny and Xavi. And give Misty all our love from PT.

**CultureJunky** · 03-25-2009, 08:58 AM

Thank you everyone for you kind words, it means a lot to me. I'm gutted it didn't work out like I hoped, but I really hope that Misty will either be able to stay with her owner, or at least be homed where she is happy.