Rachel, I think it's a couple of the comments that have been made that are really bothering you. Not just comments but prior situations. I don't think your family intended to hurt you but that's the way it sounded to you.

Your graduation is as big as it gets, in my eyes. Weddings, etc. are big too but a college graduation is such a huge accomplishment. You can never be wrong in thinking it's a big deal. Believe me, it's a big deal to your family too.

I agree with others. Your brothers may not be there physically but in spirit. You'll be so excited and happy, you probably won't think about it. Things happen like this all the time and can't be avoided. Try not to let it bother you too much and get out there and enjoy yourself!! You deserve it!! You've worked really hard for this. I know I'm super proud of you.

p.s. Just think, your future husband will be there.