There's no decent men left

[COCatMama]

I think the worst thing is that Steve and I still care about each other altho he no longer "loves" me, and he is going through a really hard time since he lost his beloved father. Things have been bad between us for awhile but before that we got along great and I did love him alot, oh well better to have love and lost than to never have loved at all I suppose.

[Karen]

I think you'd have to be pretty rare people to NOT still care for each other after all that time invested, and I'm glad you don't seem as bitter as the thread's title had me believe!

To get off the topic ...

Your saying the only men you like ... my boss the other week was decrying aloud the fact that newsanchors seemed ... gasp ... biased! in their reporting, wheras he grew up just believeing everything the anchors said was the gospel truth. He also tends to want to trust what politicians say (this was in the midst of a very heated governer's race in Massachusetts.) When I say that, in general I don't trust politicians, after having expressed surprise at his utter trust of newsfolks, he said ... "Well, do you trust ANYONE?"

and I said "I trust Dad ... " and was going to add "and Paul, too", but others piped in to say yup, they trust Dad, too!

[COCatMama]

Oh, I'm fairly bitter I quit speaking to my father a year and a half ago *lol*. Such is life!

[toughCookie]

hey, there's always cats LOL.

[shais_mom]

I agree, There are decent men out there, its just hard to find them. I agree with Karen, too spoil your dog and if need be Get a kitty!!!
You are the most important in your life and your happiness along with your dog.
I will confess something, I am 27 years old and never seriously have had a boyfriend. I am happy by myself. My friends think I am picky. Well, after 27 I have a right to be.
At this point, my prioririties are my pets and myself. The reason I got my cat is b/c my friend chose her boyfriend over her animal. Her loss is my gain. So I won't give up my animals for anyone, especially my kitty, she has had it rough anyway.
NOT THAT ANYONE IS ASKING YOU TO DO THIS.
I don't know why I am saying this totally off the point. SORRY!
I wish you the best of luck!!!

[Nomilynn]

Lalaina just stop looking in Surrey teehee..

[Miss Meow]

Lalania, you've been investing two years into starting, building and ending a relationship. Of course there are no decent men left, you haven't been looking while you've been in the relationship! Well, I hope anyway ...

Once the cloud starts lifting the decent men start emerging, because you are actually looking out for them. Sometimes they are elusive, they might be hanging out where you don't, studying at night so they don't get out much, are a bit damaged from relationships so they aren't ready just yet, but they are out there.

A great boy magnet is that dog of yours, men always talk to girls who are walking dogs! And maybe join a mixed sports team like netball to expand your circle of friends. And if you have the $, take some short courses at a community centre, you never know who you'll find.

A few years ago I put an ad in the personals for someone to go to the rugby with (my friends didn't like rugby and I didn't want to go by myself). I got about 60 replies and met some really nice men. There were a few freaks who responded but you get that anywhere. I really hit it off with one of them and we went out for six months - and I got friends for the rugby.

Good luck

[moosmom]

Live your life for you. When all is said and done, making yourself happy is most important.

That is the best advice I've seen and couldn't agree more. There are two other quotes that come to mind...

"A woman NEEDS a man like a fish NEEDS a bicycle."

and...

"I'm my own best friend. I'm always around when I need me."

[COCatMama]

HeheHe the bicycle quote is from a U2 song. Thanks again everyone, and there is no way in heck I would EVER give up an animal just to please some guy!!

[moosmom]

Lalania,

AMEN TO THAT!!! "Love me, love my cats!!" The guy I date has to at least like them or there's the door! My cats have always given me unconditional love. Can't say that for some of the guys I dated.

[Uabassoon]

The reason I got my cat is b/c my friend chose her boyfriend over her animal. Her loss is my gain. So I won't give up my animals for anyone, especially my kitty, she has had it rough anyway.

That's how I got Corkscrew my friend decided Corkscrew wasn't as important as her boyfriend who just didn't like cats. My last partner was so allergic to cats that it made the relationship so hard. So now that I'm starting to date again I ask "are you allergic to cats" or "do you like cats."

[Chinadoll]

Completely agree with y'all..no one comes between me and my babies. I have 5 ferrets and 3 cats...Joey(who I've been with for the past 6 years) tried to mention that whenever we decide to get married I should try to rehome a few pets. His ears were blistering when I was through with him. Now he's absolutely clear on the love me, love my pets...everytime he gripes about another pet I bring to home...I calmly reply it's my time and my money...do I ever tell you how to manage your time or finances or not to buy some new electronic equipment?! He knows I'm right and always backs down. He may *itch about the pets, but he loves all of them.

I don't mean to sound trite...but there are good, decent men out there. I can think of 3 of my friends immeadiatly. These are the best guys...one is in the Marine Corps and two are Cops. Their problem is finding a woman who wants to commit herself to their lifestyle and the worry that comes with them being with a Marine/Cop. Another consideration for 2 of them are their daughters. One has a 6 year old, the other a 4 year old...As adamant as we are about someone loving our pets, these guys put their daughters above all else. One of them is from the Northwest, when his ex decided to move herself and their child down here, he had the choice of only seeing his little girl once or twice a year or leave his friends, family and job and move down here. He left everything to move down here and be a part of his daughter's life. There are good men out there.

On that note, enjoy being single. I'm sure you'll find someone when the time is right...I know easy for me to say...but I really think it's true. I wasn't looking to meet anyone when Joey came along. Also, enjoy living alone...I love it. If I want to sleep til noon and eat cookie dough for breakfast, clean house and vaccuum at 3am, I can. I'll stop blabbering now. ((hugs))

[Miss Meow]

Originally posted by Chinadoll
His ears were blistering when I was through with him. Now he's absolutely clear on the love me, love my pets...

LOL! That is a great mental picture

[Soledad]

Chinadoll- As a family member to many a servicemen/cop I can tell you that it's more than the lifestyle that has to be adapted to. There are severe emotional issues as well, and as a result servicemen/cops have phenomenal rates of domestic abuse. Now I love my aforementioned family members, but it was not a lifestyle or risk I was willing to take. I've seen many a nice guy ruined/hardened by that life, and I didn't want to be involved in it again. So, others, be warned.

Also "a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle" is actually a quote from Gloria Steinhem.

[COCatMama]

Steve is a paramedic P/T...no kidding about the emotional probs they lock all their feelings up inside, not good at all!