I learned to look at online dating as a menu. Try out different things than you'd normally go for..... you like musicians? Stay away from them and go for the sporty type. I found that a LOT of people who did that end up with the right one because all along they were chasing the wrong type!

I also see that if things get too cozy online too fast, its a warning sign. I met someone (before I met hubby of course ) who was WONDERFUL. He wrote me poetry, was romantic, and sensitive. Oh, I was in love before we met. Then we met.... this grubby looking mamma's boy showed up. Talk about disappointment.

One guy spent a lot of time telling me how smart he was, but also challenged me intellectually. When we met, he spent the whole lunch telling me what was wrong with my work's website and how wonderful HE was at fixing websites.

Another guy wanted to meet at a dog park. So I dragged my sister in law along. THANK GOD I did because he was "nice" but it was nicer to have another person with us. By the time I got to the dog park guy, I'd gotten really good at reading between the lines of what they say. Hubby was genuine and true in everything he said. I could tell he was.


Oh, and there are instances where a handsome guy is truly unaware that he is. Those are a rare breed!