I've missed so much of this while I was sick.
I'll be thinking about Barney and you. Please give him a little hug for me too.
I've missed so much of this while I was sick.
I'll be thinking about Barney and you. Please give him a little hug for me too.
From Decker with Love
Thank you so much guys. I can't tell you how much I love the idea of everyone lighting candles (or light houses) and/or thinking of him at the very time that he goes. That is truly one of the neatest things ever and something I'll never forget.
It has me in tears because it is so kind. And this little, once homeless kitty will finally know how very many people loved him in this world.
p.s. Jazzcat wrote:I hope you feel better soon. I gave Barney everybody's hugs, including yours.I've missed so much of this while I was sick.
p.p.s. I'm not sure about all the time zones but Scooter's mom, my brother lives in Tucson and I talk with him a few days a week and he is one hour ahead of me right now. We fell back an hour a few months ago. You'll probably still be at work but it will be at 3:30 your time, 2:30 my time.
I have to go out now and will post later - just wanted to give this time zone link for now.
http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/full.html
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"I don't know which weapons will be used in the third World war, but in the fourth, it will be sticks and stones" --- Albert Einstein.
Enjoy your time with Barney- I am sure he enjoys it too.
I will miss you forever, my sweet Scooter Bug. You were my best friend. 9/21/1995 - 1/23/2010
Goodbye, Oreo. Gone too soon. 4/2003 - 9/12/2011.
Farewell & Godspeed, sweet Jadie Francine. You took a piece of my heart with you. 11/2002 - 8/8/2016
Charlie kitty, aka: Mr. Meowy. Our home is far too silent now. 2003-6/14/2018
Re: the lighthouse. I feel that there is a relation here in regard to "our" Barney.
Barnegat Lighthouse (affectionately known as "Old Barney"), located on Long Beach Island, NJ, was re-lit again about a week ago after being dark and out of commission for 80 years!
Coincidence??? - maybe...but for those of us that see the spiritual symbolism of the lighthouse, just maybe there is more to it. I'd like to think so.![]()
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To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.
Ecclesiastes 3:1The clock of life is wound but once and no man has the power
To know just when the hands will stop - on what day, or what hour.
Now is the only time you have, so live it with a will -
Don't wait until tomorrow - the hands may then be still.
~~~~true author unknown~~~~
From Pomtzu..."Barnegat Lighthouse (affectionately known as "Old Barney"), located on Long Beach Island, NJ, was re-lit again about a week ago after being dark and out of commission for 80 years!Coincidence??? - maybe...but for those of us that see the spiritual symbolism of the lighthouse, just maybe there is more to it. I'd like to think so."
I love this, and it is so very sweet...what a coincidence! Isn't it funny how little things like this occur?
Judy
"The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated."
Mahatma Gandhi
I'm in North Dakota, and here we are in the central time zone, which is 2 hours ahead of you...And you're right...this is one of the neatest things ever...How this poor, precious homeless little kitty has gotten so many of us (from all over the place) thinking and rooting for and most importantly, praying for him, is just amazing. Thanks for allowing all of us here at PT to go on this journey with you and Barney. We will truly all be with you both on Friday.
Hugs and prayers!
Judy
"The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated."
Mahatma Gandhi
I can't believe I haven't been back there since 1993. I lived there for 12 years but returned to Canada and have been here ever since. I miss the sound of doves and the amazing sunsets and the smell of orange blossoms in March but I sure don't miss the summer heat!
pomtzu wrote:That is so neat. It reminds me of a book I've been reading called 'When God Winks at You' and it is about things just like that.Re: the lighthouse. I feel that there is a relation here in regard to "our" Barney.
Barnegat Lighthouse (affectionately known as "Old Barney"), located on Long Beach Island, NJ, was re-lit again about a week ago after being dark and out of commission for 80 years!
Coincidence??? - maybe...but for those of us that see the spiritual symbolism of the lighthouse, just maybe there is more to it. I'd like to think so.
Slick wrote:That is wonderful that you are lighting candles for Barney this week leading up to the day. Thank you for that.LES I've put this into my outlook calendar at work. Will light a virtual candle on that day to help light his way. As well, I'll be lighting candles every night this week at home in the evening. Pom: That's so beautiful and makes sense to me.
Weluvcats wrote:Thank YOU and EVERYBODY for being a part of it with me. It is a journey I would not have wanted to take alone.I'm in North Dakota, and here we are in the central time zone, which is 2 hours ahead of you...And you're right...this is one of the neatest things ever...How this poor, precious homeless little kitty has gotten so many of us (from all over the place) thinking and rooting for and most importantly, praying for him, is just amazing. Thanks for allowing all of us here at PT to go on this journey with you and Barney. We will truly all be with you both on Friday.
Hugs and prayers!
kb2yjx wrote:Thanks Sandra. It is wonderful. One candle has turned into many and it is remarkable.This is just so wonderful!!! All the prayers, candles(and lighthouses, too)that will be lit, and all the people thinking about Barney, Lara, and Scott on Friday. We are here for each other, and this is proof!!! Lara, you know all are prayers are with you and Scott now, too. Please give Barney a gentle hug from the Clan....
momtomany wrote:That is so kind of you Julie. I will be there with Barney right to the end and I will definitely be thinking about all you guys and your prayers right at that moment.I will lite a candle at the church for our Barn Barn. My prayers are with you and Scott and especially with you on Friday. I hope that somehow you will be able to feel all of us Pet Talkers there with you spiritually holding you and Barney on Friday.
Short update:
Barney, or 'Little Man' as I've been calling him lately is as sweet as ever. He chirples whenever we open the door to check in on him. He is eating many meals each day and doesn't appear to be suffering, though I would not call this quality of life. I took another bath in 'his room' last night and when I do this, it really gives me a chance to see his decline because it's as if he forgets I'm in the room and doesn't focus on me like he does when I first enter with food and stuff. It's at these times when he sits there in that position between sitting and lying down and I see clearly that it's time.
He is such a fighter though, I've never seen a cat with so much up against him and the will to combat it. It is truly amazing.
I ran out of insulin today and asked the receptionist to ask the vet if I should come in and get some more. My concern was that maybe he would go into some kind of shock without it? I really wasn't sure. But Robin said he should be fine without it for the next few days. I'm so glad to hear that I don't have to poke him with needles in the morning anymore. He was so tolerant about it as he got used to our morning routine but I know it stung. But the second I pulled the needle out, he started eating again.
The power has gone out a few times in the last few days but thankfully it didn't last more than a couple of hours each time. I'm hoping it doesn't go out again because I don't want him to be cold for one single moment. I've been keeping the bathroom so warm, he's probably thinking it's summer! lol
Lara,
I just read your update about Barney and my monitor blurred up again. I have also planned on lighting candles until Friday, with special prayers offered up in Eastern time zone, to help his passing.
This little guy continues to amaze me. I cannot read this thread anymore with out getting all choked up over him, and he's not even my kitty. Prayers to you and Barney throughout the week as well. I cannot get over the impact that he has had on every one of us. Amidst all of the sadness and letting go, the unity, hope and love that he has brought us is a beautiful thing indeed.
You will not be alone on Friday.....we'll be with you in spirit.
Mary
I just realized you'll be putting Barney to sleep on my birthday.It makes me sad, but I know it's his day, and all the candles on my cake will definitely light the way for him, lol. It's silly to be thinking of myself, how it's sad it's on my day, but I can share that with him, and will so gladly. He's grown to be such a part of my heart, across the miles, that I don't know that I'll ever forget about him ever.
I'll be thinking of Barney on Friday at about 5:15, and will have my candles ready and waiting, and I won't be blowing them out.
Love you Barn Barn, I wish we could have met. I wish you would have been able to get better and we all could have met you on a summer day full of sunshine and butterflies and a picnic or something that maybe we crazy Barney lovers could have pulled together. Just because.
I wish you would have gotten healthy enough because I really wanted to come and get you this summer and add you to my crew. I really thought of that a lot, and Lara knows if you had been healthy enough, I would have found a way to get to you and, if the trip would have been safe enough, I would have brought you back to PA with me (if Lara would have relinquished you at that point, lol).
I'll miss you, sweet Barney Frog. I'll miss the videos and the grumpy faces you made at the camera. I know you've gotten more love than you've probably ever received in your lifetime, but know that we all just wanted to see a miracle happen, and wanted you to get better. You're our Barney. You're in all of our hearts now, and it hurts to think of letting go.
Major LES here....
Well, try to look at it this way, Jennie: Jesus didn't command us to celebrate his birth, only to commemorate his death, emphasizing among other things, naturally, the importance of the transition from one life to the next. This will be a rebirth for our Barney. I think probably all of us at PT wanted to make him a member of our household; I know that I sure did. He'd make a wonderful member of our Fur Posse but he's right where he's meant to be, fulfilling his purpose. So many of us don't know our purpose in life and yet Barney lives his every day and he struggled against all odds to do it. All the days of cold, starvation, cruelty, illness and misery were erased w/one swoop of Lara's loving arms when she took him into her care and the outpour of love from the world over that he has caused transcends all belief, religion, race and color. He has united us all in love; that is his purpose and he's fulfilled it well and w/dignity. My hope is that I can learn from his example and fulfill my purpose in the same manner, that I can experience a similar symbolic rebirth, that we all can.
The instant that Barney takes his last breath there will be more kittens entering our world who, unfortunately, may experience the same conditions that Barney did but due to his brief sojourn into our lives, we all will have been changed and ever more alert to the suffering of cats and animals everywhere and will give them comfort in the way that Lara has done. I am humbled by this saga and although I would never want Barney or any animal to suffer, I feel privileged to have been a small part of it.![]()
Blessings,
Mary
"Time and unforeseen occurrence befall us all." Ecclesiastes 9:11
Thanks Mary. I really feel like I will be walking into that room with dozens of people! At least in spirit and that is just as powerful if you ask me. I'm grateful for the support. I'm so glad you too will be lighting a candle.
Jenn_Librarian wrote:I'm sorry that his day will be on your birthday. But, it's my belief that once we pass over, we can see our loved ones down here on earth and if that's true, Barney will see you, on your birthday and he will know that the wonderful parcel you put together for him was from you and that you had offered to come and get him before it was realized that his illness was terminal and moving him didn't make much sense. He will know how many wonderful people from PT stepped up to help him and check in on him and pray for him. I'm just so happy that he will finally know because it is the most amazing thing. So please don't be sad on your birthday, know that he will be filled with love and looking down on you with that little froggy face of his, wishing you only the best as you always did for him.I just realized you'll be putting Barney to sleep on my birthday. It makes me sad, but I know it's his day, and all the candles on my cake will definitely light the way for him, lol. It's silly to be thinking of myself, how it's sad it's on my day, but I can share that with him, and will so gladly. He's grown to be such a part of my heart, across the miles, that I don't know that I'll ever forget about him ever.
I'll be thinking of Barney on Friday at about 5:15, and will have my candles ready and waiting, and I won't be blowing them out.
Love you Barn Barn, I wish we could have met. I wish you would have been able to get better and we all could have met you on a summer day full of sunshine and butterflies and a picnic or something that maybe we crazy Barney lovers could have pulled together. Just because.
I wish you would have gotten healthy enough because I really wanted to come and get you this summer and add you to my crew. I really thought of that a lot, and Lara knows if you had been healthy enough, I would have found a way to get to you and, if the trip would have been safe enough, I would have brought you back to PA with me (if Lara would have relinquished you at that point, lol).
I'll miss you, sweet Barney Frog. I'll miss the videos and the grumpy faces you made at the camera. I know you've gotten more love than you've probably ever received in your lifetime, but know that we all just wanted to see a miracle happen, and wanted you to get better. You're our Barney. You're in all of our hearts now, and it hurts to think of letting go.
Medusa wrote:I too look at his upcoming passing as a rebirth. I will be relieved when he doesn't have to put up with cancer and discomfort anymore. I love the thought that he had a purpose, a mission and that he fulfilled it. He did create love, even though it seemed that he was the one that needed it the most, he ended up creating more and more of it. It is really special and I feel blessed to have known him. I'm sure he would have been in Heaven on earth with you and the fur posse though! lol But perhaps it's as you said, he may be where he is supposed to be.Well, try to look at it this way, Jennie: Jesus didn't command us to celebrate his birth, only to commemorate his death, emphasizing among other things, naturally, the importance of the transition from one life to the next. This will be a rebirth for our Barney. I think probably all of us at PT wanted to make him a member of our household; I know that I sure did. He'd make a wonderful member of our Fur Posse but he's right where he's meant to be, fulfilling his purpose. So many of us don't know our purpose in life and yet Barney lives his every day and he struggled against all odds to do it. All the days of cold, starvation, cruelty, illness and misery were erased w/one swoop of Lara's loving arms when she took him into her care and the outpour of love from the world over that he has caused transcends all belief, religion, race and color. He has united us all in love; that is his purpose and he's fulfilled it well and w/dignity. My hope is that I can learn from his example and fulfill my purpose in the same manner, that I can experience a similar symbolic rebirth, that we all can.
The instant that Barney takes his last breath there will be more kittens entering our world who, unfortunately, may experience the same conditions that Barney did but due to his brief sojourn into our lives, we all will have been changed and ever more alert to the suffering of cats and animals everywhere and will give them comfort in the way that Lara has done. I am humbled by this saga and although I would never want Barney or any animal to suffer, I feel privileged to have been a small part of it.
Shepgirl wrote:I agree, she writes wonderfully!I think Medussa summed this up the best and I feel exactly the same way. Medussa you always seem to know the right answers.
I guess it's a part of pet ownership all of us have trouble dealing with but we have to do what's best for our friends.
Randi wrote:I wish he had found me sooner so I could have offered him a better life for a longer time. Who knows, maybe the first half dozen years of his life were okay and it was only the most recent ones that were pretty tough. I'd like to think that because 14 years of this would be too much I think and so unfair. He does know how to use a litterbox so he was somebody's at some point.Thank you for updating us, Lara. I'm glad to hear that Barney still wants to eat and talk to you when you visit him, and don't appear to be in pain.
I'm also glad that you have made the decision, because I agree he doesn't have a quality life, and it will get worse. None of us want him to go through more suffering.
Oh, I so wish he could have come to you a year or two ago, while he may have been in a condition to save, but at least he has had so much love and care in the past few months, and will have, until the end.
Barney is in my thoughts and I will light candles for him every day. And Lara, my thoughts are with you also. We're all thankful for all the help you have given him. Few others would have been so dedicated.
Big hugs and lots of kisses to Barney. Will you stroke him gently along his whiskers for me? Fister loves that, and I bet Barney will too
I had a really weird thought the other day actually. There was a man in his 30's who died here from a dirt bike accident about a year ago. It was tragic and he left behind a beagle that ended up at his mother's house which is a few blocks from me. This beagle was very attached to him and sadly, 4 months after the man died, his mother witnessed the beagle being attacked and killed by wolves in her yard. I was so sad to hear this but was also thinking that now the two of them would be reunited in Heaven. Now I'm wondering if little Barney might have belonged to this guy and maybe he was brought to his mother's house along with the beagle. Barney may have wandered off and her house is very close to the property that Barney started hanging around about a year ago, the time this fellow died. Prior to a year ago, Terri, my coworker who has lived at her house for 2.5 half years, said she hadn't seen Barney before.
The other thing is that Barney's eyes absolutely light up whenever he sees Scott. It's as if he 'knows' Scott. And maybe it's because his previous owner was a man. It's just a theory but if it's true, he will find his previous pawpie when he passes on Friday. I have talked with this man's girlfriend on a few occasions and I'm going to ask her if he ever had a black and white cat.
p.s. I'd love to stroke Barney's whiskers for you as you do Fister but he would definitely attack me. He lets me stroke him under his chin and on top of his head though, so that will have to do. lol
MoonandBean wrote:Thanks Deb and thanks to you and so many PT'rs assistance, I was able to help him.I'm just so grateful that Barney's last few months were spent loved, warm, fed and safe. You truly gave him a great gift. I'm sorry you have to go through this again. As always, you do what is best for the animal and I thank you for ALL you've done for him
MBones wrote:I sure will!Beautifully said. You both expressed very eloquently the essence of Barney and his mission here on earth.
Lara, please give him some scritches under his chin for me and some kisses too.
Love you, Barn Barn.
LES again.
Mary
Wolflady wrote:Thank you for reading through all those pages! I agree whole heartedly this is an amazing group of people and feel blessed to have been a part of it.I know a lot of you may not remember me as I have been away from PT for a long long time, but I check in here from time to time and I saw this thread yesterday and began to read...and read. Hours went by yesterday as I read each post and got caught up in Barney's story. I just have to say bless all of you who have helped this little cat have a "happy ending". I don't think I will ever cease to be amazed by the generousity and big hearts of the members here at Pet Talk. This is really an amazing group of people. I'm sorry Barney wasn't able to pull through, but I agree with what MoonandBean said in that Barney's last few months were spent loved, warm, fed and safe. This really is a great gift.
I'll be thinking of Barney on Friday and bless you Lara and Scott for all you have done.
Jenn_Librarian wrote:That is a wonderful wish. Since you only get one when you blow out your candles, it is very generous of you to give it to him.I'm happy to share the day with Barney, if for no other reason than he'll be up there and my wish will be for him to be out of pain and free and happy again.
Weluvcats wrote:I agree, I think Barney has given more to me than I have to him. I'm certain of it. And he is the reason that I finally got off my duff and have started this feral TNR group. I've scheduled the first meeting 2 days after his passing and I don't think it would have ever happened without him. His condition shocked me so much and made me realize the kind of life these abandoned or feral cats live. I know so many PT'rs have a good deal of experience with this and I have no clue what I'm doing but I've got some help coming from some experienced people and we'll try and make a go of it. Barney is truly an angel.It continues to amaze me how this precious little man has brought all of us together. It is amazing how many of us continue to keep him and you on our minds.
I have believed for a long time now that God sends these precious creatures to be four-legged angels in our lives. I think we often believe that when one of these unfortunate animals crosses our path, we are helping to save them, and we are...But, I also believe that these angels are sent to us for our benefit, too. Several times over the course of my life, one of our cats (they have all been strays), has appeared, seemingly from nowhere, just when something difficult has or was about to befall me and/or my family. And every one of them has been such a blessing!
I believe that Barney is one of these angels. And when he leaves us here on earth, he will return to where he came from, and will enjoy comfort and peace at The Rainbow Bridge. Thank you Lara for giving him the love and protection that he so deserves.
Judy
Slick wrote:That's right, not too far at all. Probably about 4 or 5 hours away? I used to live on the Sunshine Coast which was only a 40 minute ferry ride away from Vancouver!All of you have such a way with words that I could never express. I can only day Ditto!!!
I've also decided that reading this thread at work is not a good idea. Someone just came in and asked me why my face was wet....
I think for me what makes this even more heartwarming is the fact that you, Lara and Barney, are only a couple of ferry rides away from me. So close, yet so far away.{{{hugs}}}
Grace wrote:Thanks Grace and thank you for posting that scripture from the Bible. It is wonderful and really made me happy.Barney may be an angel of the 4-legged variety, but you, Lara, (and Scott) have been his angel.
As it is written in Matthew 25:40 -
And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.
Taz Zoee wrote:I still can't get over the neat idea that people all over think about this little cat from time to time. I wish he could know and by Friday afternoon he will.The other day Taz was sitting as you described between sitting and laying down. I stood there and looked at him for a minute and was just thinking of Barney.
Little things like that will always remind me of "our" Barney Boy.
Kb2Yjx wrote:I feel the same way! I love to read all the posts of everyone and look forward to seeing what people are saying, thinking and sharing.You all are one bunch of great people!!! I was touched by each of your posts!! Friday, I will be home cooking for our amateur radio club dinner that evening. I will light a candle and put it on the stove(it will be safe there from the Clan), and while I cook, I can say some prayers for Barney , Lara, and Scott. I will put the other candle outside on the front porch before Barry and I leave to bring the food and set up for the dinner. In spirit, we all will be together. Lara, I really hope you will feel all the vibrations from all of us, one BIG hug to wrap around you as you hold Barney, when he leaves for the Bridge...Sandra
Thank you for lighting the candles for Barney. I feel sure that I will feel everybody's thoughts on Friday. When I hug Barney for the last time, you all will be hugging him.
Catty1 wrote:Well, he's not doing so great today.Lara - what's our Barn up to these days? How's he been?I don't know if it's the lack of insulin or just the cancer. He isn't that keen on his food today. He'll take a few bites but is not nearly as eager as he has been recently. The other thing I noticed yesterday is that the tumor is really progressing. It is spreading and moving up his ear and in front of it now. It's bumpy and ugly. I hate cancer!! I've lost too many people to it and pets too. I stopped his prednisilone about 4 or 5 days ago because combining it with Metacam was upsetting his stomach as I was told it would. He had runny poop for a few days. So I took him off the pred and now he just gets the pain meds but I think the lack of steroids is one of the reasons the tumor is spreading so quickly.
Part of me wants to bring him in tomorrow but it's all been arranged and I have to work tomorrow at 1:00 and I've already arranged to have someone work my shift on Friday so I think I will leave the date. Plus, everyone has their candles all lined up! In the meantime, I will give him extra metacam to make him more comfortable.
Purr_Tender wrote:This is amazing! Thank you for posting that and for lighting a candle for Barney. I went onto the site and lit one too. I read everybody's messages and think it is so thoughtful. I got all teared up when I read the one from EM from Ohio who wrote "please say hi to our Emma when you get there". It was so sad and sweet. Is that you?I found a wonderful site where I lit a candle for Barney and Lara. It will stay lit for 48 hours. So it will stay lit until Friday around 7:30 pm EST. Here is a link to it. http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng
You can all be a part of this. It will be the candle for BarnB with my initials MBD. Go to "search" either put in my initials or Group search BarnB.
And thank you to everyone who lit a candle. I really appreciate it and I know your prayers are helping him.
Thank you Amy (3catcondo) who called in a donation to the clinic yesterday. It is not necessary but so very thoughtful of you. It will be combined with the leftover funds from all the wonderful previous donations of other PT'rs and I am more than happy to take care of the rest. It is the least I can do for my friend, and my angel, sweet Barney.![]()
is a wonderful thing. If I lived in your area, I'd be right there with you. We could use something like that in my area as well. I wish I could get my hands on the people who undoubtedly abandon these animals!!My husband and I have been married for almost 26 years, and over the years 10 cats have wandered into our lives. We have found homes for three of them, and the rest we kept. The only options were to surrender them to our animal shelter, which usually has a waiting list of about six months before they can take them or, and this is a completely unacceptable option, hand them over to the police's animal control, where if they aren't claimed in five days (and they never are), they are euthanized.
We are ex Air Force, so we have lived in several places/states, and these sweeties find us no matter where we are... My husband is convinced that our house must smell like catnip, or there is a sign visible only to cats that must say "Cat Hotel"!
Please let us know how your group goes. Good luck! I think I'm going to call our animal shelter and see if there is any interest in starting something like that here.
Also, and I know that I and the rest of us here at PT have said this to you before, but I'm going to say it again...God bless you and Scott for everything that you have done for Barney. Not everone would be as selfless, patient and loving as you have been with this sick, homeless angel. Many, if not all of us here at PT have likely been in a similar situation with a needy animal, so we can all appreciate the lengths that you have gone to for Barney. You truly have been Barney's angels...
I'm sorry Barney didn't have a good day... Bless his heart...The time really is approaching...In the meantime, I, along with the rest of us PT'ers, am going to keep praying and lighting candles, virtual and real, to help light Barney's way to the Bridge. Bless you all...
Judy
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