Teen girls charged in nursing home abuse

[sparks19]

OMG this is so sad and unfortunately not unheard of

Brian and I both agree that IF we POSSIBLY can... we are going to do all we can to keep our parents out of nursing homes. I have heard and seen too many who treat the residents like garbage

I know there are good ones out there but I don't know if I could live with myself if I thought we found a good one and it turned out to be a horrible place and we didn't do all we could to keep them o ut of a nursing home.

I know... it's a big statement to make and we both REALLY hope and pray that we can come through on this. IF we can do it we will do our best to take care of them as they have cared for us all these years.

that's not to say all nursing homes are bad... they certainly aren't. there are GREAT ones out there... but I'm not sure I want to leave it to chance if we can care for them or get them a live in nurse or something.

[Karen]

Sparks, I have had the experience of needing to put a loved one is a Nursing Home. In my case, it was my Great Aunt. Fortunately, she was still mentally somewhat "with it" - she and I visited every nursing home in our city, and one in the next city over, just in case. The one we chose was not the most expensive - that's no indicator. But they allowed and encouraged visitors at any time - this is important, and held activities to which families were invited a couple times a year.

There are things you can look for, in Aunt Bertha's case, she could no longer physically care for herself, and needed nursing care. She was in the end slipping some mentally as well. And for the most part she liked it there. The staff treated the patients with respect, and were always nice. They allowed me and others to visit, spent time with Aunt Bertha, and she was never mistreated.

While nursing homes are to be avoided, they sometimes are necessary, and can be good places. Just do research ahead of time, okay?

[caseysmom]

This is one thing I really don't like about our culture in the U.S., our treatment of our elderly, I guess with lots of the wives working it has become a necessity but it is pretty sad.

[sparks19]

Sparks, I have had the experience of needing to put a loved one is a Nursing Home. In my case, it was my Great Aunt. Fortunately, she was still mentally somewhat "with it" - she and I visited every nursing home in our city, and one in the next city over, just in case. The one we chose was not the most expensive - that's no indicator. But they allowed and encouraged visitors at any time - this is important, and held activities to which families were invited a couple times a year.

There are things you can look for, in Aunt Bertha's case, she could no longer physically care for herself, and needed nursing care. She was in the end slipping some mentally as well. And for the most part she liked it there. The staff treated the patients with respect, and were always nice. They allowed me and others to visit, spent time with Aunt Bertha, and she was never mistreated.

While nursing homes are to be avoided, they sometimes are necessary, and can be good places. Just do research ahead of time, okay?

Oh of course... I understand that.

my great grandmother couldn't WAIT to go to a nursing home... SERIOUSLY lol. she was so excited about it and loved it there... although until the day she died (at 89 I believe) she only lived in the assisted living area instead of the full care area.

My grandparents on my fathers side will probably never ever be in a nursing home... they are 85 and 90 and still live in their own apartment and do all their own errands and everything. it's rather amazing lol.

So I'm not poo pooing nursing homes all together... I just don't want to have to put my parents or Brians parents somewhere if they don't want to be there or don't HAVE to be there.