Can Anyone Help Me? Im so sad

[xxangelxx]

Hi again..its been a while i know...the situation still hasnt changed, its December 1st and gabbie still is upstairs..Its been since June. i just dont get it. My original cat is so afraid of the new one. The new one cries to come in to the bedroom and the original one just hisses and growls and chases him out. Then when we are all downstairs.. the one upstairs sits at the top of the steps and meows her head off. Then i go up and comfort her. Ive tried everything. I guess we just have an upstairs and downstairs cat. Its been 6 months and i dont think it will ever change. I just feel so bad. I dont want to give any of them up. One time the new cat came up and got on the bed. the old one didnt know he was on the bed and she jumped on the bed and i had to hold her. they layed at each end. But the old one growled the whole time. And she wasnt even looking at him...its just what she does the whole time hes upstairs. Well that is my update...so sorry no good news. Its just so heartbreaking for both. We love them both ...

[catwhispers]

If someone else mentioned this, my apologies, but there is an over-the-counter liquid that you can put in the cat's water. It's natural and it has calming capabilities and might help. You can find it at a pet supply store like Petsmart. I don't remember the name of it, but people working there should be able to help. I foster cats and the rescue group gave me a bottle to use when I had a very terrified feral for a while. It's not like drugs you'd get at a vet, but it helps a little. Sort of the equivalent of camomile tea for us non-cats.

This link gives some advice on how to bring a new cat into a household. Even though it's been some time, you might find some ideas there.

http://www.wikihow.com/Bring-a-Secon...-Old-Cat-Upset

One thing you might try which is somewhat addressed in the article is to contain the new cat in a room downstairs with its own litterbox, food, etc, just making sure you spend quality time with it a few times a day, but not letting it out in the house at all right now. Keep your bedroom door open and hopefully eventually your cat will see it again has domain of the house and will start to go outside the bedroom and feel safer. If you think about it, her whole space was invaded and she lost her home, in some respect, because she no longer feels it is safe. So give it back to her again, that might at least bring her out a bit.

If the other cat is upset by this, stay strong. It will all work out.

Once your older cat begins to feel safer about exploring the home again, you can start using the techniques described to see if you can get them used to each other.

One thing that wasn't addressed in the article... once they are beginning to get used to each other you can get two crates or large cat boxes, keep them in each on a bit apart but facing each other and let them get used to being in the same room but still feeling safe.

Hope some of this might help.