Starting Over

[Donnaj4962]

I don't know you very well, just through your posts, but I want to say..... Congratulations on making the decision to post what has been happening to you.


I was in an abusive marriage (mental and verbal) and finally ended it. While we never had children, starting over all by myself was hard. I found comfort in my friends and family, and my counselor helped me to realize that I wasn't the one at fault! Please, if I can make a suggestion, make certain your children get some counseling, as they are affected by this also. I applaud you for your bravery, and you know that all of us here want to help if we can.

Sending you many (((hugs))).

[Medusa]

I read this today and felt that perhaps you might find comfort in it: "Wisdom is knowing that all is well in the midst of a storm. And as our faith grows, as we trust more that there is a power greater than ourselves which will see us through, we can relax, secure that a better time awaits us. The pain of the present will open the way to the security of the future. We can know that this too shall pass".

If you believe that it's going to be a long, hard road, just think about how hard it would be if you stayed in that abusive relationship. After the initial fear leaves you, you'll never look back, Nicole.

[M&M's Mommy]

You have my shoulders, thoughts & prayers..

May God and the supports of all those who love you (that includes ALL of us) be your strenght and comforts as you're going through this huge change in your life.

[NicoleLJ]

Thanks all. Waking up to read these messages was such a perfect start to the day. Really strengthen my resolve. I am so glad I have made the choice to come forward that I did. Thank you all for your wonderful words of support.

[cyber-sibes]

I applaud your decision - no one deserves to be beaten, and no one needs to stay in a violent relationship. Abusers are very good at setting traps, thank God he's in jail and hopefully you won't ever have to let him into your house again.

You've done what you have to to survive. You did it for you & your kids. Bravo! Will keep you in my prayers.

[Emeraldgreen]

That is a huge step and so brave. You are not only taking your future into your own hands but that of your children and even your pets. You are being an awesome parent and protecting them in the way that they deserve.
I can only imagine that it will be a bit scary but I hope that it will be less so than some of the abuse you have endured in the past.
You have my support too and I hope that you will find strength each day to carry on and that it will all fall into place for you. Take care.

[4 Dog Mother]

You are very brave not only telling us this but working to get out of this situation. There is so much information out there on abuse than there ever was and it is much easier to understand how it begins and why it continues. Again it is very brave for you to get out and start over as scary as that is. You can always turn to us - none of us wants to see anyone continuing in an abusive situation and everyone needs a safe place to talk. I hope we all will allow that to be here for you and you will use it as such. You and your children will be in my thoughts and prayers. Diana