Starting Over

[Daisy and Delilah]

Pet Talk is one of the best places in the world to come to for support. I would never ignore you and I hope nobody else would. I am so sorry you've been enduring such misery. I know what it's like.

Congratulations for coming forward with this terrible situation. You've made the first big step and it's a huge one. I agree with Ellie. Don't let your husband back into your life with sweet talk or anything else. You are a valuable person and you deserve alot better. No one deserves to be abused by another person. Physically or emotionally. I repeat, no one.

Best wishes for a brighter future. We're here for you, sweetie. You've got a whole community of caring, loving people here.
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

Let me add: Once you get out and talk to other ladies in the same situation, via support groups, etc, you'll feel better. It will give you a whole new outlook on life. Being alone can make you very vulnerable so stay strong. Think of the great life you have ahead for you, your children, and your pets.

[anna_66]

Nicole, you have my support. And I for one would never ignore you.

Not many women have the guts to get out of a bad situation like that and I commend you for it.
The road ahead will be long and hard, but you have many friends here you can turn to.

(((HUGS)))
Anna

[DJFyrewolf36]

*HUG* breaking the cycle is the first step (and the most important I think). If talking about your situation helps, by all means talk! No one will look badly on you for being human .

[sumbirdy]

Although I don't know you very well, I just had to comment and let you know you have my support.

You are very brave for talking about it. You did the best thing for you and your children.

You should not feel ashamed. You did nothing wrong. And no one here will ignore you, more than likely they will gather closer to you, listen even more intently to what you have to say, and be there for you every step of the way. I wish you and your children (and animals!) the best.

[shais_mom]

big hugs to you and
good luck with everything.

[gini]

You certainly have my support as well. Please - when you are down or going through a difficult patch - come here - you cannot imagine the help that all of us can be for you as well as solid support.

If you don't mind - I would like to suggest that we get the Prayer Pawtrol moving on your situation and send up lots and lots of prayers to ease your steps each day. Take it a minute at a time..........stop and take some deep breaths.

You are beyond brave - and each of us admire you so much for what you are doing for yourself and your children. Please stay strong for yourself and your children.

I am so glad that you are getting help because that will prevent you from ever taking him back. You deserve the best and so do your children.

[blue]

Its not a terrible secret, its a story you need to tell far and wide and not be ashamed of it. Your story of getting away from an abuser will give strength and hope to many others.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Won't ignore you babe. In fact I applaud you for being so brave!! Good luck to you sweetheart

[Ginger's Mom]

Good for you, Nicole. This is probably one of the best posts you have ever made. I admire you for stepping forward and taking control of your life once again. You and your children will benefit from it. I am sending out prayers and strength that you can have a successful new start.

[*LabLoverKEB*]

I am so sorry to read this, Nicole. I am sure that Pet Talk will give you all of the support you need. We are here for you, Nicole. Prayers and {{{{hugs}}}}

[Donnaj4962]

I don't know you very well, just through your posts, but I want to say..... Congratulations on making the decision to post what has been happening to you.


I was in an abusive marriage (mental and verbal) and finally ended it. While we never had children, starting over all by myself was hard. I found comfort in my friends and family, and my counselor helped me to realize that I wasn't the one at fault! Please, if I can make a suggestion, make certain your children get some counseling, as they are affected by this also. I applaud you for your bravery, and you know that all of us here want to help if we can.

Sending you many (((hugs))).

[Medusa]

I read this today and felt that perhaps you might find comfort in it: "Wisdom is knowing that all is well in the midst of a storm. And as our faith grows, as we trust more that there is a power greater than ourselves which will see us through, we can relax, secure that a better time awaits us. The pain of the present will open the way to the security of the future. We can know that this too shall pass".

If you believe that it's going to be a long, hard road, just think about how hard it would be if you stayed in that abusive relationship. After the initial fear leaves you, you'll never look back, Nicole.

[lizbud]

Good for you, Nicole. This is probably one of the best posts you have ever made. I admire you for stepping forward and taking control of your life once again. You and your children will benefit from it. I am sending out prayers and strength that you can have a successful new start.

I agree 100%. Congrats on seeing that you & your children are worth
fighting for. There is a better way to live & you deserve it. Best of luck
in starting on a new path.

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Oh gosh Nicole...., I admire you for being so brave!! There is NOTHING for you to be ashamed for! The one person who should is your husband only!!
Hey, if you need someone to talk too, you may always contact me on MSN!! I will send you my msn-name if you like!!

hugs for you & the kids!!

[carole]

I am so glad you found the courage to speak out here, you are among friends, never doubt that, and remember it is NOT YOUR FAULT in anyway, you did not ask for it.

It is really scarey, the next stage of your life is filled with what if's,but think of the harmony ahead, times will be tough no doubt, and it will be filled with challenges ahead, but i hope with lots of love from friends and family, and your internet buddy's you will be able to get through it all.

you have made a really good choice in your life, not to continue in an abusive relationship, for yourself and your children, one day they will thank you for it, it might not be for a while, but they will understand and appreciate what you have done for them.

No-one is going to tell you it is going to be easy,but if you weigh up the pros and cons, you will see you are now on the winning side.

I am so sorry you have had to endure this, and felt it had to be your secret, there is no shame on your part, only his,you are a brave young woman and i appauld you for coming here and opening up to us all.

Take care and feel free to pm me anytime, always here to lend a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen. HUGS.