I've been thinking for some time now that the kitten is either dead or missing and she's been afraid to say anything to you. I haven't wanted to say this because I wanted to stay positive even though I was angry but her last email to you is indicative of someone who is carrying guilt. She doesn't like the constant reminder that she asked for help, then thwarted your efforts to save the kitten. Someone who truly wants help accepts it w/out conditions and excuses. I wish the situation was different but it isn't, so it may be time to let it go. This is one of those times when we're going to have to trust that God sees all and, if you're to rescue this kitten, events will turn in your favor.