I totally agree. Sometimes a parent can also do everything correct but the child will still turn out to be dangerous.
We are learning more about the amazing brain everyday. MRI's have helped us to see the difference between people who are gay and straight and also well and mentally ill.
This child needs a total workup top to bottom to see if there is anything that can or should be done. Untill then he needs to be removed from other children so he can not render them any harm. Perhaps he will respond to medicine and these cruel tendenices can be stopped.
At seven a person knows what is mean and what is not. They understand cries of pain and fear for they have probably experienced both at some point.
As a mother the thought that one's child can be so mentally ill as to hurt an animal or another human being is so so so sad, yet it happens. Sometimes no one is to blame. Every mother worries that her child will be born normal and healthy. Any one can have a child who's body and or mind is not whole or slow or ill.
I gave birth to three children. One is gifted, one has a learning disability and one is on meds for depression.
The one with the learning disability is the most successful. The one that is depressed is the most artistic and the animal lover. The gifted child is the most stubborn and the one who makes the worst decisions. All are intelligent and good people. Two volunteer on a regular basis, two have multiple jobs. One worked three jobs and made the deans list.
For a time all three went to a Christian school and church every week. None attend church now.
One was in the Air Force, one is still in the Navy Reserves. Two are pet lovers, one is not. One is married.
I also have another son, I call him my third son. I met him when he was 16 and now at 23 I am his MOM2. I have taken him under my wing and love him as if he was my own. He suffers from depression, is gifted and owns tons of animals everything from a pig to a rat, birds, hermit crabs, bunny, cats, lizard the list goes on. He and his girlfriend have the cutest little girl and I am proud and happy for him. He is a good daddy even though he never had a dad. He never knew love or kindness, hard work as a child yet he is all of those things. I have helped him all I can and will continue to do so, he is after all my son now. I am so proud of him.
I have been a mom for over 30 years and I have seen and had mean children enter our lives. However I have never seen or been near a child as troubled as this seven year old is. What the parents are going through is pure hell. I am thankful my children are not like him.
I know each and everyone of you who is a parent is as well. No matter how good you are as a parent you can have a mentally ill child. No matter how rotten of a parent you are you can have a wonderful child. I have seen both.
Originally Posted by shepgirl
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