Help!!!!! Buddy's new owner wants to declaw him

[NoahsMommy]

HOnestly...I think Hal and Buddy need to have their time to bond together. A 79 year old man is not stupid and if left to his own brain for 10 minutes (ie; DONT answer his calls and only call back if severely needed, Donna), he'll figure this stuff out.

Just because his old kitty and Buddy are different, he'll see that cats are cats and they do "cat things".

My advice, let them be. They'll figure things out. If something happens where Hal or Buddy are in distress, THEN call and do something. I think that by you constantly saying you'll take Buddy is making things worse. I know you don't mean to do this, you are concerned for Buddy, of course - which is why I adore you!

Let things be for a few days, I can almost promise you that they'll bost adjust.

Keep us updated, OK???

Hugs & Love,
Kelly

P.S. I saw you on Yahoo last night and tried to chat but you were idle. Lets chat soon???

[Emeraldgreen]

I was just wondering how old Sam (the cat at the Humane Society) is? If Sam is an older cat, it might be a better match for Hal, in addition to the declawed thing. 79 is up there in age and Buddy is so young. I only mention it now because you are already looking at possibly trying to provide a different cat for him if he allows it.
We just adopted two cats a few months ago and one of them, Gromit, was adopted by an older lady a few years ago but he was surrendered to the SPCA by her family a few months ago because she became too old to properly care for him. He is only 4 years old.
Our other cat George was in the exact same situation. A lady adopted him from the SPCA through the animal hospital went to. She had George for almost a year but then she wasn't able to care for him and he ended up homeless again. That is when we adopted him.
I know every person is different and my husband's parents are in their early 80's and doing pretty well. Though I don't think a pet would be the best for them now as they are starting to forget stuff, like where they parked and what they were just doing etc..
I know there are people out there who are as sharp as a tack and Hal might be one of them but I was just thinking of 5 years from now. Hopefully Buddy will live for 15-20 years.

[moosmom]

Kelly,

I think you may have something there. Hal is as sharp as a tack, believe me. Sam is 6 years old and a real love. I think I'm going to let them be. Hal really doesn't want to give Buddy up. I told Hal that I'd take the ride to the HS with him just so he could check Sam out. I'll back off for now. I'm sure I'll hear from Hal eventually.

Sorry I missed your IM. By the time I got back to my computer you had signed off.

[NoahsMommy]

Donna,

Darn it, I'll try and look for you online more often. Is there a time/day when you're normally able to chat??

I'm sure Hal will be calling you....maybe he likes the attention, you know? I really think that letting him make the decisions and using his brain will really help them bond and make him aware of what comes with kitty 'ownership'. It sounds like his wife took care of all the responsibility and decision making when it came to his last kitty. Its time for him to learn on his own - I'm sure Buddy will be glad to help teach him.

Sam also sounds like a dear. I hope he gets to go to a fabulous furr-ever home too. I'm sure he will...little sweetie pie.

Hugs,
Kelly

[moosmom]

I'm on now Kelly.

I wish I could adopt Sam but I'm maxed out. Hopefully he'll find the loving home he truly deserves.