hi its me again..the one with the maine coon and himalayan, Anyway its been about 5 months now and my old cat IS STILL UPSTAIRS IN THE BEDROOM!! she hasnt come down once in that time. Please help, ive tried everything, from starting over to feliway to home remedies. She is getting so skinny. And the other cat want to be with us, but she wont dare let him in the room. I took the new cat upstairs and just plopped him on the bed, She didnt know he was there and she jumped up on the bed and had a fit when she seen him, Screaming (awful sound) and growling. He just looks at her and slowly walks away and meows like hes sad that she wont accept him. I hate having an upstairs and a downstairs cat. And we are downstairs till we go up to sleep then she wants attention and im ready to sleep. Will it always be this way? Please anything will help. And yes weve tried bringing her down, and she practically mauls us when we try. Shes not bathing and seems depressed. I am at my wits end here. I feel like if they dont get along to get rid of them both. And we have become attached to the new one. Usually its the new one that hides and makes it bad. When ever we say the new cats name to her she growls, she even knows his name. Comical somewhat..lol...please any other suggestions, I have seriously tried them all. Thanks for any help....Angel