Awww, I'm so glad Kirk landed safely and is where he belongs, with you at his side. Yay for Kate and Kirk! (((((hugs)))))

Glacier, Spencer and the entire "Glacier Family"...
You are all in our prayers - and that's A LOT of prayers!! The "C word" is such a scary word and little Spence sure was blessed to have the easily treated kind. Such wonderful news!!!!
The "Glacier Family" will remain in my thoughts and prayers.
, Kelly, Noah, Basie, Phoebe & Micah

Twisterdog...
You sure have a heck of a lot to handle. If advice is what you seek, mine would be to, like Gini said, take it a step at a time. You cannot help anyone if you are too upset/sick/annoyed yourself. You'll need to put yourself first enough to help others. The ones you help? The children...the adults are who put the innocent children into all this for their own selfish desires. I think that if I were a child in any of the situations you described, I'd want to know that there was SOMEONE I could count on. I would have your nieces/nephews/children over for the day and instill into their heads and hearts that "NO MATTER WHAT" you will be there for them. No matter what...and mean it too. It sounds like your family has been running amok for a while...and it seems they knew their goingson were wrong, because they waited for your father to pass (I'm so sorry ((((((((Twisterdog)))))))) ) to let everything fall apart like this. Your husband needs to grow the heck up. Any person, any "MAN" that chooses one child over another, ESPECIALLY when he knows the sitation, and makes said child aware he/she is second choice to another...is not in any way a MAN! (a child doesn't have to be told he's second to another, he knows...trust me)
You and your family will be in my prayers as well. You have a ton to deal with, but remember, God only gives us what He knows we can handle. Do you see ALL that God has entrusted you with? Do you see all that He knows you are very capable of handling - with His help...
& Hugs,
Kelly, Noah, Basie, Phoebe & Micah