Just venting (sorry this is long)...

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Like people, some cats will just take an instant dislike to each other. If keeping them together makes everyone unhappy then maybe finding a home for one of them is the only answer. Just remember that Meg is not Murphy

[shepgirl]

Maybe have your female checked out . Wonder if she could be hormone imbalanced and might have scents emanating from her that her male partner is not keen on...maybe some male hormone thus making it seem as though she were nother male?..Just a thought.

[catmandu]

I AM GLAD THAT WITH THE FOUND CATS, THAT THERES NEVER REALLY BEEN A REALLY HATE THING. MY PRINCESS KEEPS TO HERSELF AND HISSES AND SPITS , AND SHES LEFT ALONE.
PANTHERS A LONER TOO, BUT HE JUST LEAVES WHEN ONE OF THE OTHERS GET TOO CLOSE AND LOVES THE SOLITUDE OF THE CELLAR.
WE ARE SENDING PRAYERS THAT SOMEHWO YOU CAN GET YOUR CATS TO GET ALONG,
ITS A SHAME YOU CANT TELL THAT WHATS AT STAKE.

[mamaducky]

ITS A SHAME YOU CANT TELL THAT WHATS AT STAKE.

Wow, Gary -- you are SO right! I keep wanting to say to them, "Do you not GET it? This is the best gig you're going to get, so don't be acting like this!"

Unfortunately, these particular cats don't seem to speak English.

One constructive thing I've done this morning was to switch vets; when I called today to make an appointment to check Meg's bite wound, I was told that the vet who has been seeing my cats is now "no longer with them". This is at least the 5th vet I've had with this practice in the past 8 years -- which says something to me about the practice. (The care has always been good up to now -- but I've also not had any major problems, either, so it only bothered me a little that the staff seemed to be in a revolving door.) Adding that to the "trainer on staff" who never returned my calls asking for help, it seemed as though it's time to make the break.

The vet to whom I'll be taking Meg this afternoon is affiliated with the Cat Network here in St. Louis, which is a no-kill shelter/cat rescue organization -- this makes me think that they may well have done more work with cats, and they'll at least have a little bit better idea about what solutions we might have for our problems. (They also come highly recommended by my Wheaten Terrier "dog-sister" -- my Mom & Dad really love these vets.)

Maybe they won't have any better ideas for me, but at least I feel as though I'm trying to do something to make the situation better.

By the way, everybody, thanks so much for all your kindness as we go through this stressful situation. Your support means more than you realize!

Big hugs,
Diana

[CathyBogart]

I'm sorry all the regular stuff isn't working, you're not a bad cat mama! I hope this new vet has some answers for you.

[emily_the_spoiled]

This is a hard place for you to be and I have similar issues with Oliver and Charlie (two of my furry ones). I had reached the point where I was ready to return Oliver to the shelter I got him from. He was always good with the other guys and me, but the minute he would see Charlie he would try and fight him. Before that I did a couple of things, first I had Nancy (an animal communicator) do a reading on both of them. It helped me understand a little better some of this issues going on. That wasn't quite enough, so I ended up putting Oliver (he was the aggressive one) on Prozac and it is like night and day. I normally wouldn't have gone this route, but I had tried everything and this was the last resort and boy did it make a difference. He now "reminds" me when I need to give him the medicine

[jazzcat]

What a bad situation. I'm so sorry. I have a much milder case of it here with Rocky and Scout (heck everybody picks on Scout). Anyway, last year I tried Clomicalm and it was a compounded cream that I rubbed in Rocky's ear. I can't say that it helped, it just seemed to make Rocky a little spacey acting and when he'd come off of it it he acted worse in my opinion. That doesn't mean it wouldn't work for you. Maybe you could ask about a cream instead of a pill?

Good luck with the new vet. Fingers and paws crossed that they offer some help. (((HUGS))) for you!

[krazyaboutkatz]

I'm so sorry to hear that this is happening. I hope that your new vet will be able to help you. Like others have said, I'd try to either get the medicine compounded into a liquid form or a cream. I hope that you'll be able to find a solution for this problem and that you won't have to rehome any of your cats. Please continue to keep us updated. Good luck.

I did have to rehome my semi-feral cat Cirrus because he and Storm would fight daily and it just got worse. He was a cat that I wouldn't be able to medicate unless it was in his food but he was too smart. Now he has a wonderful new loving forever home. If you do have to rehome your female then I hope that everything will work out for her. Good luck.