You're so right, Mary.

I was at a Constructive Living workshop several years ago, and the facilitator had us talk to each other about the troublesome or bad things that had happened to us in the past week (we were at tables in groups of 4 or 5).

Well, the gabbling ensued. Then the facilitator stopped us, and told us to talk about the good things that had happened to us in the past week.

SILENCE.

We needed time to think...and by the time our brains started, he took us on to the next topic.

Try this at your next coffee chat or friends night out!