Here are some links that may be of some use to you.

http://cats.about.com/gi/dynamic/off...animalaid.html
http://cats.about.com/gi/dynamic/off...eycatcare.html
http://cats.about.com/gi/dynamic/off...lark.mn.org%2F

Also the kittens are not the way the mother is for the simple reason that they were not acclimated to us at a young age. Cats develope the strongest bonds between the ages of one to three weeks. If they do not interact with us at a young age they won't trust us. That is why is is best to get to them as fast as you can.