I'm almost at the end of my rope!!!! **Update**

[aki]

awwwww! well first of all, you need to rest for a second.

i think if cami is purposely (seems to be) doing this, and it's not to do with her health like a urine infection, it might just be attitude. and i know you love her, but you have to do what you have to do. and if that means re-homing her, so be it. what good would it be for you all to have to re-homed, yanno?

(((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))

~Aki

[Catty1]

Hon - does your insurance cover ANY type of counselling? Venting here and also venting in person with someone will help.

Some houses of worship have lay counsellors, usually the clergy - sensible ones are there to walk the walk, and not talk you into joining.

Maybe there is a PT person who would take Cami. There have been transports done on PT before.

I really pray the answers come through for you just as you need them - and they will. It's unfortunate - but work stress seems to hit those who are the best and do the most, and go out of their way for their job.

I hope you can take a few days off and even go to a motel in another town for a couple of days. Doesn't have to be expensive - just a total change. Then you can come back with a clearer view of what's up and what you can do.

HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS

[Anikaca77]

Oh dear...just try to breathe...a few deep breaths and just do that for a few minutes or so.

I know what you mean, you sound a lot like me with OCD and being on antidepressents.

As for the cat spraying, I'm not sure what to tell you, I've been through that just recently myself and found out I think it was using cheap cat litter because I've put several litter boxes around my house with the old stuff that I used to use and now Anika has finally stopped it (knock on wood).

If I had a bigger place and didn't rent either I would take her.

Melissa

[Medusa]

Boy, I can feel the frustration and nerves as I read your post. I've been there, several of us on PT have, so I know how you feel about the peeing and not wanting to rehome Cami. As a vet asst., you probably know about Clomicalm but, in the off chance that you may not, I'll mention it. It's given to dogs for behavior problems but my vet, who has since retired, started some of my cats on it because he'd read and heard good reports of it being safe for cats. Some vets say that it takes 6-12 weeks before it starts to work but I was fortunate; it started working immediately. Before Clomicalm, I was ready to rehome Specs. That cat peed whenever and wherever he felt like it. He was an outdoor cat that I rescued and I got so mad at him one time that I tossed him out the door and yelled "You lived outside before, by God, you can do it again!" Of course, he hung around the door and cried but I didn't relent for 3 days. I tried ametryptilene, which worked for a while, but then he started peeing again. I tried buspar w/no effect whatsoever. Clomicalm started working immediately; there have been no side effects whatsoever. I give 4 of my cats 5 mg. each before bed and there have been no incidents since then. You truly are nearly at the end of your rope and I would say that, before you decide to rehome Cami, give Clomicalm a whirl. Ask your vet and see what s/he says. It's been a godsend to me and this household and I don't worry about people walking in my house and wrinkling up their noses due to the acrid urine smell. I sure hope things work out for you. I know it's maddening. I know. I do know.

[Catty1]

The Clomicalm might work on the bullying behaviours of the other cats.

HUGS and huge prayers to you...

[Medusa]

[QUOTE=Catty1;2031230]The Clomicalm might work on the bullying behaviours of the other cats. QUOTE]

Exactly. And it's good for inappropriate spraying as well.

[jenluckenbach]

I hear you and I feel for you. NOT a happy situation to be in. (have been there and will be there again!)

Suggestion 1.....Is there a room in your home that you can keep Cami by herself? Not having the stress of the other cats might be just what she needs. Also, "retraining" to the litter box always starts with confining to a small space.

#2.....have you tried Cat Attract litter?

#3.....Medicate Cami. There are several medicines to try for problem "pee-ers". It is the only thing that keeps me sane around here. I can't guarentee 100% success, but maybe pretty close. And maybe you'll have greater success.