I don't understand why...

[moosmom]

Queen of Poop,

I'm so sorry for your friend. Did he leave ANY kind of note??? Suicide is a very selfish act, especially when there's family involved. After my little meltdown, I realized how close I came to "checking out". My first thought was "who will care for my cats???" My situation LOOKED hopeless at the time. But in the end, nothing is worth something so final.

Your friend is going to need all the support she can get from her friends and family.

Please give her my sincere condolences.

Donna

[Medusa]

A good friend of mine committed suicide two years ago. It took us a while before we found out the whole story as to why and it may be that way w/your best friend's husband, too. Sometimes we don't ever fully understand, though. I'm sure you'll be there for your friend and, for the time being, that's all you can do. Prayers are going up for you and all concerned, Gayle.

[Queen of Poop]

Thanks everyone for your comments. I just can't stop thinking about this and WHY. I just feel so bad and helpless.

[Catty1]

{{{{hugs}}}} I am SO sorry for your friend!

I hope she gets an answer to the 'why'...this topic came up in a different way on a recent thread...and though it is selfish in a sense, if someone has a mental illness like depression, you can get so dark and obsessed in your own head that the blinders are totally on. You can't think of anyone or anything else...just you and the black hole.

Sadly, many men don't ask for help, they want to "tough" it out.

{{{{hugs}}}}

[Medusa]

Yes, I have to agree w/Candace. It got awfully dark and scary for my friend and her note said, in part, "I have nothing. I am nothing. I will always be nothing." None of us had any idea that she felt this way until afterwards, obviously, and we put all the pieces together. She presented a totally different picture. I went through a period of anger for nearly a year concerning this because I felt that, if she had opened up to us and allowed herself to be helped, her suicide would never have happened. But that's a big "if" and it was out of our hands. As time passes, you'll undoubtedly learn more about the "why" of it but right now take comfort in knowing that his torment is over while his wife's is just beginning, so be there for each other.

[Freedom]

I am so sorry to read this. Sympathies to your friend, you, the family, the coworkers. And to the husband, may he now RIP, out of that dark place he landed in.

[MoonandBean]

I am so sorry. Just be there for her and let others be there for you too. This will be hard on you as well.