Can Anyone Help Me? Im so sad

[Medusa]

Welcome to PT! You came to the right place for help and encouragement. Years ago, I had that problem w/my now 18 1/2 year old Maine Coone mix, Pigeon, except that, besides her shyness, my now RB Peeka stalked her and beat up on her every chance she got. So poor Pidge retreated to underneath my bed and stayed there for what seemed an eternity. It wasn't until I brought in another cat w/special needs that, for some reason, Peeka decided not to bother Pigeon any more. However, Pidge still stayed underneath the bed until she was darned good and ready to come out. I know you miss your girl and her companionship but until she decides that it's safe on all accounts for her to come out, you're probably going to make things worse if you try to force the issue. Move her food, water and litter box back where she liked it and just leave her to her own devices. The Feliway plugins may help somewhat, too. If not, there are medications that your vet can prescribe, if only temporarily, to help her to chill out a little. I'm glad to see that you're not giving up on either kitty. These things take time and she'll come around, especially if you employ some of the suggestions. Good luck and please keep us posted.

[GILL]

Welcome, I agree with Jen and Krazy. We have a room that we cane isolate new kids in. There is a 1-inch gap under the door. Paws and noses can go under, so every one gets too know the new smell with no intimidation. Some times it takes a long time for things too even out. Our female Main Coon would hiss and growl at anything that moved. After 5 months she is starting to learn it does no good and may even get her wet. It may take awhile but it sounds like there are no threats. I would keep the litter box, food, and water in her safe room. Too many changes just make things harder. Personally I DO NOT believe in using drugs if at all possible. I think that the best way is still patience and time.
Please let us know how things are going

[mruffruff]

Welcome!

I have to agree with the others. Keep her food and litter box in the room where she feels safe. It can take a long time for some cats to accept another cat or person.

I would also encourage you to e-mail her picture to Nancy Efrusy, a pet psychic. She can give you some idea of what Gabbie is feeling. When you know her side, you'll know how best to proceed. And Gabbie will know that you want her back.

E-mail Nancy at [email protected].