Nathan 2

[Catty1]

First, a couple of links: http://fatherhood.about.com/od/oklah...ahoma_Dads.htm

http://tulsafathers.org/ This looks like a "parked" site, but there is info on this site.

I think Charles had better get another lawyer - perhaps one that is into Father's Rights. This has info for Oklahoma.

http://www.fathersrightsnow.com/about/

From the site:
* As a father, you have the right to be influential in the life of your child.
* As a father, you have the right to interact, be involved, and spend wonderful time with your child or children.
* As a father, you have the right to love, nurture, and protect your child free from harassment from the mother. And, don’t forget that!
* As a father, you are entitled to decide where your children will live. Don’t think that this isn’t your right! It is. When DM (daughter’s mother) told me she was moving across country with our daughter, I promptly said, “Hell no!,” called my lawyer, and put an end to that nonsense.
* As a father, it is your implicit right to participate in the parenting of your child or children.
* Fathers have the right to see both school and medical records of their child or children. And, don’t forget that. When DM wouldn’t communicate with me about our daughter’s health, I contacted my daughter’s doctor. When the doctor wouldn’t communicate with me, I contacted my attorney. Then doctor communicated. You’ll notice a frequent pattern from me when resistance is encountered in the exercise of my parental rights: I call my attorney. And, fortunately, she’s a great attorney. And, you, please, get yourself a good father’s rights/custody attorney.
* It’s a father’s right to take part in his child’s extracurricular activities.
* It’s your right as a father to have custody, control, care and influence over your child or children. Even if the mother has residential custody, do not let that take away your fundamental right.
* It is your right as a father to participate in the selection of your child’s school.
* It is a father’s right to determine his child’s doctor, dentist, and medical treatment.
* It is absolutely, definitely your right as a dad to adhere to your beliefs and style of parenting during your visitation time. The mother has no right to interfere with this.
* It is a father’s right to provide discipline and guidance to his child or children. I’ll take this a step further and say that it’s more than a right, it’s your responsibility.
* And, finally, it’s Dad’s right to decide what is best for his child or children. And, don’t you ever forget that!

So, that list is a good starting reference for understanding the basics of father’s rights. Now, it’s important to understand that with father’s rights come father’s responsibilities.

http://www.fathersrightsnow.com/cust...ody-state-law/

Oklahoma Child Custody State Law

Oklahoma Statutes Annotated, Title 43, Section 109 (43 O.SA Sec. 109).

The court shall consider the best interests of the physical and mental and moral welfare of the child. Children of sufficient age are permitted to express a parent preference. There is no preference for or against joint legal custody, joint physical custody, or sole custody, however the court will encourage shared parenting when in the best interest of a child. Custody is awarded based on a preference first for parents, then grandparents, then to third parties according to the best interests of the child. In cases of domestic abuse, it is presumed that it is not in the best interests of the child to have custody, guardianship or unsupervised visitation granted to the abusive person.

Parents may request or agree to joint custody, and the court shall order that if it is in the best interests of the child. The parents may submit a plan jointly, or either parent or both parents may submit separate plans. Any parenting plan shall include provisions detailing the physical living arrangements for the child, child support obligations, medical and dental care for the child, school placement, and visitation rights. In sole custody cases, any order providing for the visitation of a noncustodial parent must provide a specified minimum amount of visitation between the noncustodial parent and the child unless the court determines otherwise. Except for good cause shown and when in the best interests of the child, the order shall encourage additional visitations of the noncustodial parent and the child and in addition encourage liberal telephone communications between the noncustodial parent and the child.

[sumbirdy]

I haven't been on here in a while, so I'll catch everyone up.

Charles has allowed her to have her visiting hours but he has not allowed her to take him with her. The reason for this being that the first time she came out after the divorce was final she basically molested him. Nathan is uncircumsized so she thought she'd take it upon herself to pull the skin back. She pulled it so far back that it got stuck and started to bleed. Instead of being worried about that she continued to make perverted comments about his private parts. Mom got it unstuck and we took him to the doctor (without Stephanie) and he said that she very well could have scarred it and caused problems. She's getting angry at Charles for not letting her take him and tried to deny pulling Nathans skin back! But Charles was informed at the court that if he felt that Nathan would be in danger with her that he didn't have to let him go. He's only protecting his son. And we're still letting her see him.

In other news, we're now trying to potty train Nathan. He got some "big boy" underwear and his own potty.
He loves, loves, loves dogs, but unfortunately thinks all dogs will be as nice to him as ours are. Charles got him his very own puppies, Wally a Yorkie/shi-tzu and Samson a German Shepard/Great Pyranees. Of course no one's expecting Nathan to take care of them but he does like to help out by putting food and water in their bowls. And of course he likes to roll around on the ground with them. I'll have to post some pictures up soon.