What Were They Thinking ?

[elizabethann]

What a sad story.

[Freedom]

Prayers for that young man.

[lizbud]

Can you imagine the guilt trip that boy would have? He would feel
bad enough learning of their death after the fact, but to announce it
to him in advance???

[Jessika]

They weren't thinking, obviously.... it's a shame that you get to that low pit in your life and feel that suicide is the only option. As much as it sucked, at least they called their son to let them know they loved him. That poor boy, though... I can not imagine how helpless he had to have felt being so far away...

[shais_mom]

wow. How sad.
That just cements it more in my head that Suicide is the ultimate act of selfishness.

[lady_zana]

wow. How sad.
That just cements it more in my head that Suicide is the ultimate act of selfishness.

I do NOT feel that suicide is the ultimate act of selfishness. For someone people, yes it is. And just given the facts from this article, it seems that yes, for this couple it was.

However, most people who committ suicide are extremely depressed and unless you actually have severe clinical depression, you can't understand what that's like. It's not feeling bad for a while. It's not feeling like you can't get out of bed for a week or two or three. It's feeling like you can NEVER get out of bed....it's a darkness that last years.

Please never tell someone who says they are going to kill themselves that they are selfish because then not only are they depressed and 'unlovable' and 'useless' but they are 'selfish' too.

As someone with severe clinical depression, I understand what it's like to feel there is nothing left in the world. I have been so bad as to feel like the only thing worth holding on in the world is my cats - I've actually rationalized it like 'My friends and husband will understand; they know why I'm in so much pain but my cats will never understand where I went.' Does that sound crazy? Now that I'm better, my medicine is working, I'll admit, yeah, that sounds pretty crazy! - but not killing yourself because of your cats but it made perfect sense to me when I was super-depressed.

People will mental illnesses think differently than other people. Things that seem 'crazy' to average people make perfect sense to them.

If you ever have a friend with depression, the best thing you can do for them is make sure they get help. Whether that's calling a doctor for them, helping them pay for the cost, or even going over to their house the day of their appointment and dragging them out of bed, by all means do it. They'll be mad for a while that you did it but once their depression begins to lift, believe me, they will be grateful.

[Catty1]

I've suffered from clinical depression for man years. Although it has been under control for quite a few years now, I remember that black hole...it's like mental blinders going on and ALL you can see is the dark grey in front of you. You can't think of others...if the thoughts are there at all, they are distant and very unreal.

I pray that the son heals and learns he was NOT to blame at all...the "what ifs" can haunt people for years.

[shais_mom]

As someone with severe clinical depression, I understand what it's like to feel there is nothing left in the world. I have been so bad as to feel like the only thing worth holding on in the world is my cats - I've actually rationalized it like 'My friends and husband will understand; they know why I'm in so much pain but my cats will never understand where I went.' Does that sound crazy? Now that I'm better, my medicine is working, I'll admit, yeah, that sounds pretty crazy! - but not killing yourself because of your cats but it made perfect sense to me when I was super-depressed.

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we may disagree on suicide in general but I DO not think this sounds crazy at all. Anything to be thrown a lifeline.