I'll give him an extra special pet just for you momcat

I feel bad for poor Pollux as most of the time his selected target is Hoodini which I figure is because Hoodini gets a LOT of attention (does it help that he acts like my furred shadow? ). A few months ago, Hoodini would just run away but since he is getting bigger and braver (and Remus has decided to help him out) Hoodini will fight back now...and get agressive if Pollux demands my attention
Lately I've been trying to balance things out a little more, but Hoodini and Remus are my babies and they get bent out of shape if I even pay attention to Spook and gang up on the offender. Remus was never this bold without a partner lol.
Sigh how do you guys with multiple cats do it? Do they magically get along with each other or do they have hiss fits over whos getting petted when?