Back when I just had Toby and Dixie, they got along fine. Dixie knew where things stood and there were never any battles. They would play, sleep and eat together...it was like a big brother, little sister relationship. Toby is so mellow and she's a little bratty but they got along harmoniously, life was wonderful.

Enter Churchy about 2 years ago and things became very unpleasant! He was 1 year old, thought he was made of steel and had that cocky attitude. He set his sights on Toby but one swift butt whooping from him and Churchy backed down. He turned to Dixie and he's literally made her ill (IBS)...she slinked around, stayed high up out of his reach and hid when she's not with me but she pretty much stays with me all the time. I know she can whip his little butt, but she hasn't.

It's been two years and things have slowed a bit. He just tries to make his moves about once a week now but she's still doing all that that I mentioned above which is what gets him going now. He sees her slink down the hall and if he's close enough, he'll attack.

I've never seperated them because our holistic vet said that it would just prolong the inevitable, that this is something they need to work out. It's taken a long time, and I was scared I was losing Dixie when her IBS first showed up, but I think it's been the best way for us.
I did add a big cardboard box, on it's side with two of the flaps closed, for Dixie to make a quick getaway, but she's using it less and less.

I don't like treating my pets with meds unless it's a health issue. Attitude adjustment isn't a health issue...it's like A.D.D in kids. Most of it can be treated with diet change and heavy exercise.

I feed all three cats together (Purina One Special Care) on the table, I give treats as long as they are all three wanting them and they're right there together, and I engage them all in play at the same time. It seems to be helping... or at least it's helping along what time has started to take care of.

I guess promoting togetherness, instead of seperation, is working for us.