Help! I'm nervous to give notice to my employer...

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Can you talk to her about it - tell her what you have told us and offer to help find a replacement

[kitten645]

I've seen similar situations and my suggestion is give two weeks notice. No more or you are sure to be replaced sooner rather than later. Two weeks is the correct notice. Be proactive in finding a replacement. Offer to do interviews etc. Teach your replacement as much as you can for a smooth transition. Hey, life changes! Anyone who expects someone to continue on the same job till they retire is not living in the real world.
If there is drama and stress, just remind yourself its HER drama...HER stress. You are moving on. Good luck!

[MoonandBean]

I hate when employers act like their general and financial well being is more important than the employees...AND they expect that the employee will feel that way too. I worked for a doctor once whose wife truly believed the world revolved around her and nobody else's lives mattered; not even to them I learned to be strong and you have to put yourself first because noone else will. "To thine own self be true"