OMG! Fern to a "T". I could pet her, but she'd flinch, still does even now when she asks for pets. When you hold her she curls in a ball. Exactly the same, so with that. I'd say you are well on your way to being friends. She is never out of the catloaf position, proven by 100% of the pictures of her are all in the same posture. The one trick I found was the more I acted non-chalant the more she felt the need to explore. So a mixture of that and gentle attention should bring her around. Can't wait to hear her next step.