Chinadoll, I know how you feel. I had to drop one of my boys off the night before due to work, so he had to spend two nights away instead of one. I hated that. But he could've cared less. In retrospect, I think he had fun there. All the cute girls who work at the vets just fell in love with him and played with him night and day. Better treatment than home.
Seriously though, spaying and neutering is the KINDEST thing a pet owner can do for their furbaby. Neutering, especially, is a quick and easy recovery with very very little pain. I don't know if they have it in your area, but I opted to have Rocky's done with the new laser technology. He was a CHAMP! I highly recommend laser surgery for anyone with that option.