I need honest opinions

[kuhio98]

My ole friend (Ron) and I still laugh about the time he wanted to impress me and made reservations at a very expensive restaurant. Yep, he forgot his wallet. He was mortified. I paid the bill. Ribbed him unmercifully. He sent me flowers the next day to apologize again.

Did he contact you again to apologize?

I think you were too hard on the boy. We all make mistakes. There is a difference between a mistake and a pattern.

[Medusa]

Did he contact you again to apologize?


I think you were too hard on the boy. We all make mistakes. There is a difference between a mistake and a pattern.

No, he hasn't contacted me to apologize. If this had happened w/a guy that I had been dating for some time, I could easily forgive and pay for the dinner. But this was our first meeting. And he's not a boy. The man is 66 years old; old enough to know to bring his wallet for a date.

[Pam]

I would have done exactly the same thing. Hey, when you are going on a date with someone there are only a few things you need to remember and one of them is your wallet! Even if he wasn't looking for a free meal, this guy sounds a little irresponsible or maybe needs some memory vitamins. Maybe he is even older than he says and needs some ginkgo biloba.

[Medusa]

Maybe he is even older than he says and needs some ginkgo biloba.

That's too funny cuz that's exactly what I was thinking. Another reason why I've always dated younger men.

[carole]

IMO you did the right thing, you showed him you are no push-over, good on you and yes you cannot be too careful these days,yes he could be genuine,but honestly i don't think he was.

[Rachel]

Actually, maybe this little episode was a good thing as it quickly brought to your attention what kind of person he is. What a jerk for not emailing you immediately (and apologizing) when he got home!

[kimlovescats]

That concerns me that your phone number is on your website. All you have to do nowdays is type in a phone number online and you can get the address. Then you can type in an address and get an aerial map to your home! Also, how do you know for certain that he really drove 45 minutes to meet you? I don't mean to freak you out over this but please be careful ... too many creeps out there!!!

[Catlady711]

That concerns me that your phone number is on your website. All you have to do nowdays is type in a phone number online and you can get the address. Then you can type in an address and get an aerial map to your home! Also, how do you know for certain that he really drove 45 minutes to meet you? I don't mean to freak you out over this but please be careful ... too many creeps out there!!!

I totally agree with you. Information is very easy to come by online with just a little bit of searching. And yes unfortunately there are too many creeps out there. *shivers*

[Medusa]

That concerns me that your phone number is on your website. All you have to do nowdays is type in a phone number online and you can get the address. Then you can type in an address and get an aerial map to your home! Also, how do you know for certain that he really drove 45 minutes to meet you? I don't mean to freak you out over this but please be careful ... too many creeps out there!!!

I know, all of the things that you mentioned concerned me, too, but my office is in my home again, so when I meet w/clients, I have to give them directions to my home anyhow. The phone number that he gave me is in an area code that's 40 minutes away. Maybe the phone number is as phony as he is, I don't know. But I haven't heard word one from him since the incident so even if he was legit, his lack of class isn't what I would want in a man.

[Catlady711]

You can't be too careful with people you meet online, or anywhere else for that matter nowadays.

I think I'd have taken into account his attitude not only when he said he 'forgot' his wallet, but also his reaction when you said to reschedule and when you left. Then wait to see if he email you FIRST and what kinda explanation/tone he has on the whole event.

If he brushes it off, I'd brush him off.
If he has too complicated of an explanation I'd steer clear.
If he never responds you already have your answer.
If he is sincerely appologetic without excuses and prompt in emailing, maybe, then maybe, give him another chance, if you truely want to.

Just my suggestion, but always pay heed to your instincts, sometimes those pick up on things you just can't put a finger on and are sometimes very correct.

Good luck

[Medusa]

You can't be too careful with people you meet online, or anywhere else for that matter nowadays.

I think I'd have taken into account his attitude not only when he said he 'forgot' his wallet, but also his reaction when you said to reschedule and when you left. Then wait to see if he email you FIRST and what kinda explanation/tone he has on the whole event.

If he brushes it off, I'd brush him off.
If he has too complicated of an explanation I'd steer clear.
If he never responds you already have your answer.
If he is sincerely appologetic without excuses and prompt in emailing, maybe, then maybe, give him another chance, if you truely want to.

Just my suggestion, but always pay heed to your instincts, sometimes those pick up on things you just can't put a finger on and are sometimes very correct.

Good luck

He's had plenty of opportunity to email me by now and he hasn't, so I think he realizes that I'm onto him. I think I'm going to trust my instincts and, even if he should email me later, I'll tell him that I'm not interested.

[Laura's Babies]

They always say toi go with your gut feeling.


I'm sorry but the last thing I do BEFORE I leave the house is make sure I have my purse and I wonder where his drivers liscense was? He left home with NO ID? Yea, right!

[Grace]

I think you were very wise to go with your gut feeling.

BTW, did this guy drive to the restaurant? And was his license in his wallet - that he left at home?

[Emeraldgreen]

This is kind of a far out idea but what if he is a wealthy but very lonely guy and he's used to women who only want to be with him for his money. And if he's been on this internet dating scene for awhile, maybe he came up with this quirky method to see which women would not want to see him if he couldn't pay. I know it's far fetched! lol
Anyway, instincts are incredible and you should trust them. I think I would have done the same things as you did. And even if the above scenerio was true, who would want to be with someone who plays games. Life's too short.

[jennielynn1970]

So, he drove there without his license, insurance card and registration? That's not good

He sounds like he was full of crap. You don't go on a date and forget your wallet unless you planned on it. Normally on a 1st date you're over prepared.

You might want to give him a 2nd chance, but I doubt I would. I gave up on the 3 strikes and you're out clause a while ago.